Super scared of another chemical pregnancy

[W1ll0WLouise]

Hi all, I’m new to this :)
I already have a beautiful DD age 2.5 delivered by emergency c section. No issues with conceiving her- fell pregnant very quickly. Had some brown spotting at the start and then just usual pregnancy things.

I am desperate for another little one as seeing her be around other children makes my heart melt. I have been TTC for around 3 months (not long I know) the first cycle was uneventful but wasn’t suprised at all as had just had the coil removed. The second month I got a faint BFP around 10ish DPO and was over the moon, however the mine didn’t progress and I ended up having what I now know as a chemical pregnancy and it really knocked me! I started having cramps and spotting that lasted for days and then AF came in full flow.

This month, I decided to TTC again after reading hopeful threads about being more fertile after a chem etc. And very strangely, I got a positive extra early, which I only tested because my ovulation sticks stayed bright even after ovulation. But this time, I’m not over the moon at all. I’m full of anxiety and dread. My first response is a good clear positive and the digital clear blue says 2-3 weeks (not sure how as AF due tomorrow), but last night I’ve started to get cramps again and just feel so down and worried.
Sorry for long post. Just wanna talk to people :) my partner is very much what will be will be, which is great! But doesn’t help how I feel

Forgot to say that I’m just so worried that somethings wrong with me now? Like maybe my wombs scar is causing a problem or something. Am I normal?! 🤦🏼‍♀️

Hi OP! Totally normal feeling and I'm in pretty much the same boat as you. DD was 2 in July, literally got pregnant first try with her. I'm on cycle 6 now of TTC No. 2 and last month I had a chemical (confirmed BFP at 13dpo and 14dpo with a clear blue digital but ended up bleeding 5 days after AF was due).

I've now found out them in pregnant again (had symptoms very early on and stupidly took a test at 9dpo which was positive) and I'm taking tests every bloody day to see check line progression. It's not doing me any good as I'm certain I'll lose this one.

Today I've got pains in my right side and right groin, which is exactly what I had last time since ovulation and I miscarried. I am terrified of losing this one too, especially with this sharp stabbing pain I'm having. I was very lucky though as when I was having my chemical I had external and internal scans to check my ovaries and tubes to make sure there wasn't an ectopic pregnancy (that was my dead) so I know I have no cysts etc.

My only advice is (and I'm trying to take it myself) is take each day as it comes. I'm now not doing any tests until I get to 5 weeks (I got to 4 weeks 5 days last time). Then I guess every week after that is a hurdle. My DH keeps saying the stress isn't helping, and I know it isn't, but I can't but feeling I want to be prepared if I lose this one too. The things we have to go through, eh?!?! Xx

*that was my worry not "that was my dead" !!! Can't bloody spell!!

@W1ll0WLouise I feel your pain I have had 3 chemicals last one being in June I can't seem to get over 5 weeks I have a just about to turn 3 year old.

Just took a test this morning at 9dpo it's a slight shadow so going to re test again in a few days.

Just hoping we all have sticky beans soon xx

It’s so nice to know I’m not alone! I have also been doing a pregnancy test every day. The lines are as dark as can be now. Which is not like with my previous chemical. With that I just had very faint BFP for a few days, and then BFN on the morning of my bleeding. So that’s giving me some hope in the chaos. But then you just never want to get your hopes up TOO much… just incase. It’s a really crappy journey these first couple of weeks. The thing is I don’t remember being like this with my 1st. I remember having brown bleeding the day my period was due and thinking I had lost her. But it was only there for two days and then went away. I haven’t had any spotting this time round. Not sure if that’s a good thing or not. The cramps are easing a bit this afternoon. But still there. Feels like pressure. Just constantly feel a sensation of coming on, rush to the toilet, and nothings there. Just feel like I’m going a bit crazy. But I’m guessing it’s normal to be anxious after having a loss.
So sorry to hear about yours. My fingers are crossed for us all that they stick nice and snug

@W1ll0WLouise I had the weirdest chemical ever last time I had dark lines up until I started bleeding that's what's worrying me more.

5 weeks this time for me will be 21st December just need to get to then I'm telling myself in my mind.

It's completely normal to be extra anxious I am I just want this one to be the one that ends in a baby this time it'll be 3rd time lucky!

I feel very crampy but my boobs aren't as sore but we shall see trying not to get excited just yet going to focus on Christmas and my little girls birthday is in 2 weeks. X

Oh gosh that does not feel me with hope at all :( my strong lines have been the only things giving me hope at the moment. Just trying to think no matter how much I worry- the end result isn’t going to change. I can only hope. With my first baby I had sore boobs before I even found out I was pregnant but haven’t got that this time, they just feel heavy. I am not sure how far along I am, as I thought my period should be due tomorrow according to when I think I ovulated. However I did a clear blue and it said I’m 2-3 weeks pregnant so maybe I ovulated earlier? Not complaining at all and am hopeful that’s the case, although I did read they aren’t very reliable. But I predict I am roughly only 4 weeks. My last chemical I got to 4 + 2 days only. But I had cramps for about 5 days prior to bleeding.

TMI but I also have got a really bad tummy? Can’t stop going to the toilet. Which I guess isn’t helping with cramping feelings.

Maybe for you as you had strong positives until you bled it would be best to do as you said and focus on Xmas etc. As that way you can’t get your hopes up if you test and see a dark line… but they do say… 3rd time lucky ;) 🍀

@W1ll0WLouise precious chemicals were faint lines too so it seems my last one was a total fluke and I would be happy to be getting strong positives in this case :)

I ovulated 9 days ago and I knew in my mind today was the earlier I could get a faint positive and still went ahead but to be honest it's more a shadow not an actual positive so going to try again in a few days and hopefully I'll have a bright line.

I guess I have no symptoms yet just the cramping and no sore boobs :)

Good luck x

How are things going hun?xx

@W1ll0WLouise I'm beginning to the think it's a batch of faulty ICs there's a shadow there again this morning but not a line :( i done 3 tests yesterday and one today and they all have a shadow in the same place.

Guess ill just keep trying I'm only 10 DPO so still very early!

How are you this morning xx

Yes that’s still really early! Have you got the first response ones as those are brilliant and not too expensive off Amazon.

I’m ok! I had a tinge of pink in DC last night and was really worried, but nothing today- so I’m hoping it’s just where it’s burrowing in deep. Praying it’s that anyway xx it’s one of those that if I wasn’t looking for it I would never have noticed as it was very small

That sounds very promising indeed! It's getting all snug to stay the long term :)

I know I might go the shops and get some first responses.

You can't help but over analyse every single thing that's happening can you. Added a picture of this mornings shadow xx

Hi ladies, just reading your stories and trying to stay hopeful. I had a chemical which started last week, it was harder than I thought but have read so many stories of women getting pregnant quickly (and have a successful pregnancy) again so trying to stay positive that it'll happen for us in the next few months🤞🏼 sorry nothing to add but it's nice to know others have been in the same boat recently and that there is hope x

@lionsmum I'm sorry to hear of your loss I had one chemical went onto have my DD next who is 3 this month.

I took a year break after I had her and started trying last year since then I've had another 2 chemicals I did take a 5 month break after last years . The next one was this July and I've just got a faint positive 9dpo for this month hoping this is 3rd time lucky! :) xx