Really sorry for rant but finding things difficult

[summerdays1234]

Hello, I hope all you guys are doing well. I'm really sorry if this post comes across negative but I'm getting really frustrated with our journey to conceive and would appreciate any advice. I'm 33 and my husband is 32.

We have been trying for 19 months now and have never had any convincing faint lines or positives. Each month I hope this might be the month and I get my hopes up but then I getting the crashing low when my period comes. Quite a while ago my GP sent me for tests and they all came back clear so then my husband got sent for 2 sets of semen analysis. Both came back that he has 0% Morphology. Now I did the worse thing, which is to Google it and it seems to suggest that we may need IVF to conceive? It has been really difficult to get appointments/ tests done through my GP and appointments kept being cancelled, we couldn't get through etc... so eventually the GP called and said that because all mine and his tests had been done over too long a period, we couldn't start the referral as they all had to be done within a 6 month window. It's so frustrating as I had been doing everything I could to pester them into organising things!

I have just had to go through all my tests again, which have again come back negative. I keep calling and calling the GP but no one can confirm that our results have been sent on as a referral. We have now had my second results back for about 3 weeks and I don't know how long the referral takes to the fertility clinic but I hear that it is a really long wait. I was wondering how long have people had to wait? I'm a bit worried we will soon pass the period of time where his test results go past 6 months ago.

I'm really trying to stay positive but it is now really getting to me. I was just at my god daughter's first birthday party and I realised I was literally the only person there without a baby and I burst into to tears. I know it was really stupid but I just didn't expect the feel that way. Anyways sending lots of love and best wishes to you all. Thanks ever so much for your help and advice in advance x

I’m so sorry you’re finding it so hard, my husband had low morphology, I can’t remember the number but it was about 2% I think! He altered loads about his life to help it. Stopped drinking, stopped wearing boxers, ate nuts by the bucketload and generally cleaned up his diet and exercise regime. He also took some natural supplements and the pregnacare men’s vitamins. It did help increase his morphology following his second test. It takes three months for the sperm cycle to restart so takes a while! We decided to push ahead with IVF but ended up conceiving our baby naturally just before.

In my experience they will redo any tests once you get to the clinic anyway so his results are reflective of your situation. I think with low morphology they offer ICSI? We were offered that choice! Our referral took a while, I think we were referred in may and didn’t have first appointment until August. It’s really heartbreaking, I know how you’re feeling. It really does seem like everyone has a baby except you.

It sounds really cliche and I used to hate it when people said this but if you know when you ovulate then I really would stop tracking and worrying so much (easier said than done I know!) I threw out all my ovulation sticks and declared I didn’t want a baby anyway so what was the point! 3 months and a lot of margaritas later I was pregnant (not suggesting you need to do this obviously!) but try and enjoy your life now and think in your head that you’ll press on with IVF which will help your chances so it’s outve your hands. I really hope you’re okay. TTC is horrible when it takes so long and I’m sending you all the love ❤️

Morphology is one of the things that can actually be improved. Have a search on here for some previous threads. Essentially as per the previous post, DH will have to increase his healthy living - fresh food, exercise, sleep, no laptops on his lap, no tights boxers, reduce hot baths etc. Get a good male conception multivitamin. Stick at it for three months then he can get a retest at the end of March. All is not lost OP, good luck!

Thanks ever so much for your kindness and words of advice. It is so great to hear that all worked out for you. I will definitely look into the supplements and see what we can change diet wise. Im absolutely fine- thanks ever so much. Just hoping for some positive news soon. Thanks again x