anyone help me with my dilema?!

[mad4mybaby]

we plan to ttc in a few months for number 2 (ds1 is 18 months). My prob is trying to work out best time for ds1. He is 2 next june and will be putting in playschool next septmeber. Plan on obviously potty training and changing cotbed into bed all around 2ish.

I know you can never say there is a right time but i want a 2 1/2 ish gap between them as im only going to have 2.

does anyone thing going through all the above and then getting a brother or sister around then is too much for him?! I dont want to wrong by him but really wanting a baby so dont want to put it off another year!

i would say just go for it as long as the time is right for YOU and your dp. Kids are very adaptable and I would suggest that there is no 'perfect' age gap. Your ds will adjust just fine. good luck!

thanks dirty. I hope so i just worry too much i guess!

ah, normal to worry. I felt so guilty for ds when dd came along but he absolutely adores her. It will all be fine, honest!

what is their age gap? Are you sure it wouldnt be a prob? With all those big things going on for him at the same time?

Just to say we planned out age gap etc and now a year later have still not conceived and all our plans are out the window so I'd just go for it - you never know what will or won't happen. My dd is now 2.5 and I think she'd be v happy with baby around - loves everyone else's!

thanks for that. I just want to do right by my ds. He is my life and find it odd enough thinking that i will feel like that about 2!

3 years between my two. Ds had a lot of things to deal with too, started afternoons in nursery school, his morning playgroup closed down and new baby all within 2 months. Of course there were small reactions (he was more clingy etc) but I dont think it's a bad thig for children to face challenges and changes - after all, our job is to prepare them for the big world out there. He's going to have to learn that life doesnt just revolve around him and the younger he learns it the better imo!

Honestly, my ds is an emotional child but he adapted just fine. Children tend to (more or less) accept things without question.

Stop worrying and go for it !

my dd is also 18mo and we have been ttc on and off since i gave birth and still no luck ttc does not always go to plan so just be wary of setting dead set ages etc
good luck with ttc have fun
took 18mo to conceive dd!

I'm sure it'll be fine (but as I'm about to present ds1 (2-just) w. a little bro then I guess I would say that )

I've also been worried about giving him too much to handle but I think as long as you don't do any of the other 'big' things - moving out of a cot, toilet training, starting nursery - within a couple of months of no 2 arriving then it'll be fine.

I was very worried about moving ds1 out of his cot for instance, but did it a couple of weeks ago - and he loves his 'big boy' bed. So they do cope better than you think, quite often.

thanks wb, let me know how it goes!