Early miscarriage, your story?

[lionsmum]

Hi, I had a miscarriage this week, a week after getting my BFP. Bleeding seems to be quite heavy so confident everything is coming away. Been advised to take a test in a week to confirm & then can begin TTC again when we feel comfortable.

I was just looking for anyone with similar stories, how your cycles were & how things TTC wise went for you afterwards? Any stories would be really appreciated!

Hi @lionsmum sorry you are going through this :(

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I mc'd starting at the middle of August, I had a lot of bleeding and gross blobby/ gel, I went to EPU 20th Aug but not everything had passed.

I started bleeding again on 12th Sept similar but not as heavy. I went back into the hospital 17th Sept to make sure all had passed. That is what my EPU wanted, could be different in different areas, but I would enquire it can be quite dangerous if anything gets left up there. I didn't do any tests to check this time. 1st time I mc'd it took about 6 weeks for pregnancy test to come back negative.

I waited until AF arrived in October, according to premom it gave me a 40 day cycle. I then used easy@home OPKs to track LH and managed to get pregnant 1st cycle! With both my previous pregnancies it took about 6 months of wait and see/ vaguely using flo and one step OPKs. I wanted to get trying again ASAP just couldn't believe it happened so quick.

If you need time, take it. If you need counselling/ aftercare offered take it. It's all really just at your own time. It's not easy or nice. I found telling close family/ friends helped me. They didn't say any magic words but it did help to know that they cared.

Hello lovely,

So very sorry for your loss, it's such a hard thing to deal with!❤️

I had an early loss at 5 weeks, start of October 2020. Period was pretty normal after and lasted for 5 ish days and my cycle carried on as normal. Then got my BFP 21st April this year and I'm now 35+4b with a boy.

Sending lots of hope and baby dust x

Hello,

I’m sorry for your loss ❤️ It really is the most gut wrenching feeling ❤️

I had an early loss in Jan 2020, attended the epu and everything had come away (it was a week from the bleeding started until my appt)

My period returned exactly 4 weeks after the loss and I fell pregnant again in the May and gave birth in February. I appreciate I was lucky, but we had had 2 years of TTC before my MC.

Good luck, take it easy on yourself. Take time to grieve if you need to xx

Hi OP, so sorry to hear that. I had one years ago now at 7 weeks pregnant. It hit me hard at the time. I felt so sad. Period returned to normal within a month and was pregnant again within 3 months, with my now 11 year old lovely daughter. I felt a little on edge until the 12 week scan but then was reassured she was all OK and strong. Take care of yourself xx

Thank you so much for your replies ladies, it's really encouraging to hear positive stories & successful pregnancies after loss. I'm hoping my cycle gets on track quickly as I'm keen to TTC again🤞🏼 I lost my son 2 years ago so I know how to 'deal' with the grief as it were (if you ever actually can), but it hit me harder than I expected. You're all so kind, thank you xx

Sorry about your mc 💐. I had one at 7 weeks years ago, most of it came out in one go. I conceived my son the next month. He's 13 now and a lovely soul.
Hope all goes as well for you as it did for me x

@MakkaPakkas that's wonderful, really hoping this is the case for me🤞🏼 but not getting my hopes up too high. Thank you x

I had an early miscarriage at the start of this month, starting when I was around 5.5 weeks. Bfp on the Wednesday when AF was a few days late, then spotting started Friday, proper bleeding began Sunday and was just like a normal period for me I'd say. Lasted about a week.
I didn't really have much time to process the pregnancy news at all, before I knew it it was over. I thought it would just be straightforward case of letting it play out, but the doctor sent me to EPU for bloods and scan, which was all quite traumatic as I hadn't really expected to have to do all that. They officially diagnosed 'pregnancy of unknown location' but they think it's because everything had already passed prior to the scan.

We conceived in my 5th month after stopping the pill, so I'm hoping now we've managed it once it means the pill is out of my system and it won't be another 5 months or more for another BFP. Just did CB OPK today and got my static smiley, so going to give it a try again this month just in case, even though I haven't had a period yet.

I am worried it will happen again but logically I know there is no reason why it necessarily would. If anything, I feel like as sad and horrible as this has been it has helped me adjust to the idea of future pregnancies, as I was so shocked by my BFP that I wasn't really coping too well with it (despite TTC!). Now I feel that I genuinely want to see that 2nd line come up and won't panic so much if I do.

@LittleMysSister sorry for your loss! I feel the same as you, worried it either won't happen or take a long time to happen, even though this would be my 4th pregnancy. Absolutely I'm like you, just really want for it to happen again. Hoping your BFP is coming soon🤞🏼

I had 2 early miscarriages back to back last year (7 weeks and 5 weeks). It took a long time for things to return to normal both times. I didn't get a negative pregnancy test for about 2 months after the 7 week MC which was really distressing and caused a lot of confusion over whether I had actually had a MC because the NHS website advises to seek medical attention if you are still seeing a positive test after 3 weeks. When I called the mat unit to report that I was still seeing a positive result, they just put me back on the booking list to be seen by a midwife. I eventually went for a private scan which confirmed the MC and the sonographer said that it was actually very common for tests to be positive for a long time. I then couldn't get an answer on the phone from the mat unit for absolutely ages to let them know and ended up getting a "booking in" call from a midwife which is when I was able to tell them (again) that I'd miscarried. It was horrible.

In my experience it did mess my cycle up for quite some time and it definitely wasn't a case of simply trying again the next month. I had a very brief bleed around the time my period would have been due after each MC (bled for 1-2 days) but it took 2-3 months for my period to return properly. I did conceive again almost straight away once my period had returned though and am currently 33 weeks pregnant.

I'm really sorry for the loss of your son, OP There are no words x

I think maybe just prepare yourself that it can take a while for things to get back to normal and to be able to conceive again, but know that it's very normal and not a sign that anything is wrong. I also really panicked that 2 miscarriages back to back meant that my odds of another were just getting higher each time (too much time on Google!) but for me it was third time lucky and having spoken to friends and colleagues about it since, lots of them had actually had almost identical experiences of two early miscarriages followed by a successful pregnancy.

@Outlyingtrout that sounds so difficult, so sorry it was dragged out so long for you, it feels like a lifetime waiting for things to return to 'normal', I think you're right about not getting my hopes up too high but it's hard, my first took 5 months to conceive & 2nd 6 months but this time only took 2 months, I was SO shocked but so pleased. Thankfully taken a test yesterday & seems to be showing negative so think my body was quick to 'clear' as it were. It's horrible having to say the words out loud isn't it, horrible phrases too 'chemical' & 'miscarriage' I hate them😣
So pleased to hear you managed to conceive again & are due your little one soon, wishing you a very smooth labour⭐️ thank you so much x