Hi - Could use some advice from those with more knowledge and experience about a best next step if you think you may be pregnant the first cycle after a m/c. Bit torn about what to do and what's best for anxiety levels....
Last month i had an early m/c - I got a + the day after AF was due and tested for 3 days in a row. The lines were clear but never got that dark but I had tons of textbook symptoms so didn't worry too much, until then 6 days later started bleeding heavily. Multiple Neg tests almost immediately after bleeding so no worries about hormone levels needing to go back to normal
Partner and I decided to try again and nearly 4 weeks later and I'm getting the same symptoms I had a month ago when I was pregnant, but just not as intensely. So some EWCM, but not as much as last month. A bit of boob pain, but not as much as last month. Some pelvic pain, etc. The heavy EWCM at this stage in the cycle feels like a real mindf*ck, as I never ever ever ever had that before last month's pregnancy.
I'm really torn about whether to test or not, partly because I have a very short cycle. When I spoke to the EPU last month and explained that I'd tested on Day 24, they almost told me off a bit for checking too early - I had to explain to them that Day 24 was one day late on AF for me, so it felt like a reasonable time to check!
I'm worried that if i do check now, it's likely going to be too early for any strong + line, and that I could easily go through the same upset again with an early chemical miscarriage. Some women think its better to just not check at all and then at least you haven't gotten your hopes up too much if you have a chemical
But if i DON'T check, and if i then go on to have heavy bleeding about a week after my period is due, then I won't know for sure it was a m/c and be able to get follow up help from the EPU - important point here that another m/c would be my 3rd and would therefore qualify me to have some follow up investigations
So what's best? Live in ignorance but risk not being able to access proper follow-up if I suspect a 3rd m/c? Or go ahead and test asap, but deal with the inevitably faint line that I'll get because my short cycle means I'm always on the early side of FRER or CB sensitivity at this stage. I don't know if I can take the anxiety of seeing a faint line again - my brain will just automatically assume that I'm a week off another m/c.
Of course all these scenarios are based on the assumption that I am pregnant which may well not be the case!! But any advice or shared experiences of women who have gone through similar anxiety straight after a m/c would be really reassuring to hear x