Age gap dilemma

[TheThirtySomethingMum]

Hi All

Dh and I currently have 2 DC's aged 8 and 6 and we thought we were done, however....we have recently started talking about having another. My one big concern at the moment is the age gap.

I know that having another baby will impact all of our lives dramatically as even our oldest DC does not remember a time with out his sibling, but obviously they are both old enough now to understand the concept of having another sibling.
We have discussed this with them as we want them to feel like they are being heard.

Do any of you have bigger age gaps like ours would be and if so how did this impact on any other siblings?

Lots to think about!

Let me guess. U have 2 boys and want a girl

@onepotatotwopotatothreepotato what an unnecessary comment

OP, I have a friend who has kids around your age and decided to have another. She did find it quite difficult especially with trying to find activities etc that would entertain all three of them but other than that she found transitioning from 2 to 3 quite easy and the older two love having a younger brother. Lots to weigh up.

A big age gap between 2nd to last and last child was actually very common before the use of contraception!

My friend had that, 6 year gap. You need an involved father so that a parent can be with each child for activities. If your DCS play sports you can still attend, etc.

You might find you enjoy the toddler years a little more as you are able spend more focussed time on the child, or you might resent them more because you've become used to children being a little more self sufficient.

Toys are tricky because you have to have room for the big, noisy baby toys AND the older toys, and as some of the older child toys are actually dangerous for young. Holstein.

@onepotatotwopotatothreepotato

Let me guess. U have 2 boys and want a girl

And the problem with that would be what?

Gap between our youngest is 6 years...
Wanted to so did share a room from baby being 1 until 6!!
Now 13 and 7 and best friends still!!

I read a thread you started yesterday - I remember your username.

I dont think adding another child into the mix is the right thing for your relationship at the moment.

I read your other thread too.

It's not the right time.

He has an alcohol problem and you found explicit messages on his phone but you are talking about having another baby??! Bad idea