Delicate subject. Please help

[BeautifulJames]

I gave birth to my son at 25 weeks and lost him shortly after - this required a classical section (the scarring upwards).

So this is what has happened.
In 2015 I had a normal section.
2017 I had an emergency normal section
2020 a vaginal birth

... 20th September I had the premature baby and classical section.

I've found out I've conceived again.
We wanted to try again but I didn't expect so soon and my DH has turned around and said "I'm sorry we are going to have to have an abortion. Way too soon for another eith your extensive scarring plus the very recent classical" not those exact words but that sums it up.
I'm broken but I know there will be massive risks.
Can anyone give me any advice, what would they do etc?

Birth control is not just your responsibility

Unless a qualified medical professional has told you that an abortion is required then if that's not something you want then your husband needs to accept you have both made another baby together.

I agree with the previous poster - it sounds like your husband has just jumped to a conclusion? Surely the first step is to call your midwife/doctor to clarify if this will be a viable pregnancy due to the scarring?

I'm so sorry for the loss of your son OP, I lost my son 2 years ago so I share your heartache. I had a 'normal' section though so not sure on the advice about the classical.

Maybe he is just speaking out of shock and surprise? I'd give it some time, and also speak to a medical professional about the implications of having a baby soon after a classical section.

Having an abortion after such a heartbreaking situation is not something I would have ever contemplated, medical risk or not, and I can only imagine what it would have done to my mental health, whether DH wanted it or not. At the end of the day it's your body & your decision. Pregnancy after loss is tough & he may just take some time to adjust.

But ultimately I would speak to a HP and take it from there. Sending love x

Thank you for all the messages.
We've decided to go ahead with this pregnancy - turns out he was just terrified. I don't blame him one bit.

Wishing you all the best🤞🏼