Ttc is mentally hard

[Chanel05]

I'm ttc #2 and this is only my second cycle.

My journey with ttc my daughter was very long and emotional. It took me 8 months to conceive, I then had a mmc and it took another 8 months to conceive her. Start to birth was 27 months.

I'm much more chilled this time (I think) so far because I already have my daughter but I got a bfn at 10dpo so I out this month and I know that. As ridiculous as it it, I just feel like why can't it be me for once that has a quick, simple journey? I just feel like it's going to be another 6 months before I conceive and it's frustrating.

I had fertility tests first time privately and dh and I had excellent fertility so it really was just a matter of time as I'm sure it is now.

I had an emcs so know that every month that passes is better for the healing of my scar and know that my chances of vbac improve each time but it's still on my mind that I have yet another long journey ahead.

I feel you. I’m only on cycle 2 of TTC for our first child and I already feel over it.

For the first cycle, I used CB OPKs but decided against them this cycle as I got really upset when we missed my peak because life got in the way and we didn’t DTD.

I worry that it could take forever or may not happen at all, but I’m trying to do things to keep my mind off it! Obviously that’s easier said than done.

Don’t feel alone as I’m sure the majority of us here struggle too.

I'm sorry you feel down and sad @Chanel05. It's totally normal and understandable. Also you should give yourself some time to feel that way before you pick yourself up again.
A few things though: 10dpo is not out yet. Over 1/3 of all pregnant women won't test positive by 10dpo yet. Even though on average, implantation is at 9dpo, it can easily be a day or two later, so you won't test positive yet. Also, it's very easy to be a day or so off your predicted ovulation date, even when you use opk.
Another thing, even if timed absolutely perfectly, chances of conception are still only around 25-30% (depending on the study) each cycle. It will happen eventually, and we're here in the meantime to pick each other up again!

@Firsttimetrier they are so expensive too!!

@Bundaberg84 you are absolutely right of course. I got my bfp with my dd at 9dpo so in my own head and experience, anything negative then is a complete out for that cycle. Despite seeing time and again it not being the case for other people having a bfn then a bfp, I just don't believe my body works like that 😂.

@xoxo321it's a minefield isn't it?! I stressed SO much ttc my daughter

@xoxo321 I’m finding it slightly more relaxed not tracking this cycle but at the same time I’ve ingrained and prepped my husband that this is the week to try 😂.

You are definitely not alone OP. I’m finding it hard and getting obsessive with everything. We are TTC #2 as well and were lucky enough to conceive our DS in the first cycle. I have read so many stories where people got pregnant really quickly the first time then it took ages for their second and I’ve convinced myself that’s what’s going to happen. I’ve stupidly started taking my BBT too which I’m finding so confusing, I wish I could relax and go with the flow more. I didn’t realise how much I wanted a second child before I started trying for one. At least we all have each other

Good luck Op. It is so so difficult and an emotionally roller coaster. It is so easy to symptom spot when it's the one thing we want so badly.

The one month I got my BFP (this month) was when I sat back and relaxed and djdnt think about it... tried to keep myself busy (with ALOT of Netflix and kindle) I waited until my AF was late and then tested x

Sorry, I know that is easy to say. Please come and talk to us on here and we can help you. Stay strong and don't give up