Anyone worried about fertility before even trying?

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I feel a bit daft posting this to be honest, but I’ve always had this feeling in the back of mind that I’ll really struggle to have children.

We’re going to start trying next month and I’m getting so worked up about it, that I feel like not even trying now!

To make matters worse, one of my best friends told me yesterday that she’s pregnant and she wasn’t even trying?! I’ve been an emotional wreck all night and feel awful for feeling this way!

My mum keeps telling me I’ll be fine because she got pregnant so easily on four occasions, but I don’t think fertility works that way!

Anyone else in the same boat?

It took me a long time to get pregnant but likely the issue was husbands and not mine.

From what you've said there's no reason why it should take over a year.

Regular cycles like yours can vary by a few days and still be termed regular. The doctors always called me very regular as I vary between 28 and 30 days.

My sister took over a year to get pregnant and at the same time I was working with two women who were using IVF to get pregnant as they had had fertility problems. All advised me to crack on as soon as possible as it took up to two years to even start accessing any help. I then got pregnant first time and was pregnant at my scheduled wedding (I even had to buy another dress). I get that you're anxious, but there really is probably no need to be yet. Good luck!

You’re all so lovely over my absolute freaking-out!

As a few have said, that want of wanting a baby right in this moment is so overwhelming sometimes, that you forget everything else that’s positive!

I’m on Citalopram too - I spoke to my doctor about this and that we were going to start trying and she said that it’s quite dangerous to be on it whilst pregnant?! But I feel like I need my mental health in tip top shape to be able to move forward, so have made an appointment on Friday to chat through this again 👍

I hope this isn’t unhelpful, but I always had a gut feeling I’d have trouble with my fertility too. It was because of excruciating periods I’ve had all my life that weren’t properly investigated.

Infact I was only taken seriously when we weren’t able to conceive. It turns out I have endometriosis and blocked tubes so will need IVF. I can’t change the time we wasted TTC, and the emotional rollercoaster that was, but my advice would be to ask for proper investigation into your painful periods.

My infertility consultant said my pain is not normal and he couldn’t understand why it hadn’t been investigated. Ultrasound scans and blood tests don’t show endometriosis.

If I’d been diagnosed when I should have been, I would have known I had an issue and sought help sooner. With my blocked tubes we would never have been successful TTC naturally. My Dsis and DM both conceived naturally and quickly so although I’ve always worried about my own fertility, that gave me false reassurance to keep trying naturally.

It can take up to a year to conceive and the best test is to just try. I hope it all happens naturally for you but don’t hesitate to get help sooner rather than later if it doesn’t.

Hey, just to say I was on sertraline and as far as I remember at the time it was thought ok (and also for subsequent breastfeeding) So perhaps you could explore switching if citalopram is not advised. But talking to your dr about suitable medication is the best thing to do. Best of luck.

@GodspeedJune thanks for telling your story 😊

I’ve always thought maybe endo was something for me, but consultants have never been able to find anything despite so many tests and ops etc.

It’s all a mystery as I don’t have any other endo symptoms either 🤔

Anyway, I’m just going to not stress about it anymore and just enjoy living my life and hopefully one day soon, our little tiny will be ready and will decide to stick 🥰