Almost one full year of trying still nothing.

[incywincyspiders]

I know there are threads like this everyday but I just need to get it out somewhere as I'm really struggling at the moment. We first started trying for a baby in March 2020. We tried for three cycles and nothing - we then decided it wasn't the right time as we were mid buying a house so we paused. We then started again in November 2021... And still nothing 😢 I'm 32, my partner is 31 and I just feel like it's never going to happen. Everyone around is already has children or is currently pregnant and I'm struggling so much wondering when it's going to be our time. Had my hormones and other tests done in august: they all came back fine. I'm pretty sure I'm ovulating as I have all the signs and my periods are regular (between 27-29 day cycle other than on the months I had my covid jabs and it delayed it a few days).

Hey, I'm sorry you're finding it hard. I'm in a similar situation, we've been trying for 14 months straight and had tried for a couple of months here and there before that. I'm 30, have a pretty regular 27ish day cycle, not overweight, don't smoke or drink heavily - the only issue I can think of is that my job is pretty stressful, but I dropped my hours a few months ago. It's very disheartening - I know it can take this long without there being a problem but the longer I go without a bfp the more worried I get. Doesn't help that two friends have gotten pregnant very quickly, I was very pleased for them but it made me pretty sad.

Is your gp referring you on for further tests? DH had a sperm analysis and everything was fine. I'm waiting for my day 3/21 bloods now. AF is due any day but I've started spotting so I reckon I'm out.

@incywincyspiders hi! I’m on cycle 6 - CD31 or a 30/32 day cycle. No AF yet.

Have you tried vitamins? VitaWestDHA, CoQ10, folic acid and Vit D combo is talked about often. Read up on each one - some I’m sure you’ll know already. If you don’t get my EWCM, Evening Primrose Oil seems to be highly beneficial. Wild card as I can’t see how it helps scientifically but lots of threads about PreSeed which support the sperm on its journey to the egg. It mimics EWCM.

These are things either friends have told me or the hours reading the internet or this forum. I’m not pregnant yet, only started vitamins last month but fingers crossed it happens for both of us soon. You test results sound very positive x

Took me about 18 months to get pregnant first time with ovulation checking, really should have gone to GP. It was soul destroying so I am sorry you are going through this.

2nd time, I got pregnant first month trying with the 'sperms meets egg' method and using pre seed. Honestly, not much fun as sex is regimental but it did the job. Give it a quick Google we did it to the letter. I would not do it every month as it was hard work and exhausting.

Hi OP. I feel your pain here. In the TWW of cycle 11 not a hint of a BFP. We have been to gp and I've had day 21 bloods which were fine. We have first appointment at fertility centre in December.

@BrownRogerForever it is so mentally draining, particularly for the woman. I think I’m quite shortly going to get my bloods checked.

Thank you for all the replies. I just wanted to get it out somewhere.

I have tried three different types of pre-conception vitamins but not the individual ones so I might give that a go next. I do get EWCM but it varies how much month to month and sometimes it doesn't match up with my peak which is weird. I've been doing SMEP the whole time. I will definitely follow up with the doctor when we hit a whole calendar year to get more tests. It sounds awful but I really if there is a problem anywhere, it's more likely to be my partner. He has smoked his entire life and now vapes and I know that this can effect sperm. I have asked him to cut back but he has found it really difficult to. As soon as we hit a year I am sending him for tests too.

It's just exhausting every month and sometimes I want to give up but you can't give up wanting a child. I think it's also difficult because I know that if we can't have one naturally, neither of us are interested in doing IVF (lots of reasons, I'm not against it for other people but I know that it would be too much physically and emotionally for both myself and my partner).

I'm really sorry to all of you that are also going through it. I wouldn't wish this on anyone but it's nice to not feel as alone and nice to not have the first response be "don't be so negative" which is what I get a lot from people IRL.