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Is it too early to panic ?

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Hotfudgebrownie · 16/10/2021 18:54

Hi All,
I’m 32 soon to be 33 in a couple of months and just started TTC. We are only on cycle 2. Cycle one I think I’d already ovulated when we DTD but cycle 2 I tracked with OPKs. I’ve been pregnant before by accident when i was 17 but I felt I was too young and not emotionally equipped enough to have a baby at this age and so it ended in a termination. I have had chlamydia a couple of times in the past but treated as soon as I found out but I have seen online this could cause fertility issues and also I’m a bit worried about my age. I know 32/33 isn’t old but I feel I may have left it too late incase there are any problems. I’m unsure if these are genuine worries at this point or I’m just anxious.( I am a generally anxious person) My mother told me she tried a long time to have me when I was younger and it’s always stuck in my head and has made me presume I will be the same. Although she had me at 33 and my brother at 36. I was never that bothered about having children when I was younger but over the last year and a bit something has kicked in that’s made me feel like my life will be incomplete without at least one and having a baby is all I can think about. It has started to cause a lot of pressure in my relationship which is still fairly new. so much so that I’ve started to think if we do break up I’d like to have a baby as a single mother perhaps with donor sperm. I feel I have my whole life to fall in love again but not my whole life to have a baby. Sorry there’s a lot to unpack here! Basically it’s taking over my life. So much so I’m considering paying to have fertility tests but I don’t know if this will feed into it more.

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Indianna2006 · 16/10/2021 21:51

@Hotfudgebrownie I think you need to just take a breath. Your mums fertility doesn’t neccesarily have a bearing on your own. So unless she has an issue which can run in families. I wouldn’t go too much on that.

32/33 is average age for women to be having babies. Lots have that much older so you have time. Although I understand your worries.

Worrying as be this anxious about it this early will not help. You need to look at it realistically and try rationalise it.

It can take a healthy fertile couple upto a year to conceive. That’s for fertile couples with no slight underlying issues which makes conception harder.

You’re only at the very beginning and likelihood is hopefully within a year you could be pregnant. Could be quick. Could take longer.

There is no reason for you to have fertility tests until you get to those points especially if you are not aware of any issues. Just enjoy ttc to begin with and if and when time gets that far on cross that bridge then.

I know it can be difficult op. But honestly all this pressure on yourself this far ahead will only be detrimental. Try take your mind off things and think each month is another chance 🙂

I’m ttc number 2 and on cycle 6. My DD took 7 cycles to conceive so hoping for some luck soon 🤞🏼

grey12 · 16/10/2021 22:00

PP is right, your mum's fertility isn't yours. My mum had big issues and I didn't. If you are very worried you can always get a private consultation with a ObGyn to check your ovaries and uterus.

Btw, it can easily take one year to get pregnant if both partners are healthy.

What can help is ovulation strips. Buy a cheap big box of them online. The paper ones you pee on ;) and start doing them a few days before what you think is your window of fertility and do it everyday until you hit the "special day". Mine was 5 days before...... and that's why we took some time to get pregnant. But then my periods used to be 25 instead of 28 days

Good luck!

Hotfudgebrownie · 16/10/2021 23:43

Thank you so much! You’ve really helped calm me down. I’ll do as you say and just try to relax. I wish you lots of luck with your journey 💖

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TheDaydreamBelievers · 16/10/2021 23:55

I agree you are catastrophising. Your mums fertility isnt yours unless its genetic conditions. My own mum conceived on cycle 1 both times and got live babies. I've been trying 1.5 yrs

olidora63 · 17/10/2021 00:02

Definitely try and relax. I had my third child at 37 and was old school…2 weeks after my period I had a lovely cuddle with my husband. I just didn’t even think about using any kind of test to see if I had ovulated. Wishing you well .💐

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