Feels like im stuck in limbo

[Limboland80]

So im 37 years old and have been married for 10 years- we have been so happy just the 2 of us that having kids never really were on the horizon! In the summer i found out i was pregnant and although we were both shocked we were both excited about it! unfortunately at our scan we were told that our baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks - it was devestating :( i had surgical management 3 weeks later -
I now cant stop thinking about having a baby - everything i see and everywhere i go is just babies ! My friend has just told me she's pregnant and i feel so jealous of her.
My issue is that my husband dosent know if he wants to try again - he said it scared him leaving me when i had the operation- he wasn't allowed in due to covid - he said he cant bear the thought of losing me !
I totally understand and it was a traumatic time for us but i cant bear the thought that this is it and we are meant to go back to our pre pregnancy life!

That's an odd reaction from him. Presumably it's not a risky surgery, although a horrible thing to have to go through I'm sure. He's probably still processing everything as it wasn't long ago.
Perhaps seeing a counsellor may help him work through things.

I was the baby mad one in our relationship. I did have to talk my dh into ttc and when I was pregnant didn't want to talk about the baby as he was scared. But he loves our daughter to bits. We're now 4 years into our secondary infertility journey and my dh would also desperately like another one. He's supported me through 2 fertility related surgeries and 5 rounds of ivf. My point is that people do change. I think given that your dh was happy when you were pregnant there is hope there that he may change his mind.

Ask him if needs some space, help finding support or simply wants to talk to you more about it and go from there.

Thanks for your reply i really appreciate it xx we have said we will give it until after Christmas and then see how he feels xx

@Limboland80 I'm pleased to hear that. I hope the time gives him some times to heal and think about what he wants and that you both end up on the same page.