Feeling disheartened after 2 miscarriages

[Irishfarmer]

I'm hoping for some good stories here. I miscarried naturally a few weeks ago , I refused the drugs as the doctor made significant errors and I didn't trust her I also miscarried D&C last December.

I had always wanted 3 maybe even 4 children. But now I'm 33, if I got pregnant tomorrow I'd still be 34 having the child. So it seems very unlikely that could happen. We have been ttc for about 2.5 years. Although I only started tracking ovulation in the last year, my cycles are pretty irregular so we were probably missing the 'window' every time. I also bought ovulation strips and my app doesn't match them.

Has anyone had two miscarriages and gone on to successfully have a baby?

Hi I have had 4 and I am sat here typing this with a beautiful 11 week old in my arms, after my 4th miscarriage they put me on high dose folic acid, 75mg of aspirin and progesterone, and I am now 43 ! I was so close to giving up I wasn't sure I could live with anymore heart break but then .......

Sorry to hear that you've miscarried again. I had 4 miscarriages before our daughter, she's now 11.

I took 75mg aspirin up to 34/36 weejs and progesterone pessaries up to 16 weeks with her.

Good luck and try not to lose hope. it can happen.

@Irishfarmer no success but just letting you know I'm in the same boat. In 32 and had 2 miscarriages this year. It's so deflating. But from what I've found, it's quite common and we're not alone.

Feel like I can't think of anything other than having children atm and it's so difficult to go through everyday. I've got 3 mates who are pregnant atm. Well one has had twins today, one is due tomorrow and one later in the month. A woman at work has 3 children who are all pregnant atm too and she never shuts up about it. I feel like I'm just shutting everyone out.

Every few days or so I go online and read success stories after 2 miscarriages and it makes me feel a bit better.

I'm trying to do things to keep me positive such as going to the gym regularly and eating a lot better. Ive also today decided to delete my social media. I feel like seeing pics of scans and everyone else's babies is just a reminder everyday. Going to try give it a few months or until I feel better about it all.

We just have to be resilient and keep going!

@joanneligthelm @catchatt how did you get progesterone and high dose folic acid? Did you just ask your gp? Thinking about this next time.

Sorry you're going through this.

I had 3 miscarriages before I had dd.
Had surgery for endo and found out I was pregnant a few months later. IVF would've had to have been my next step.

Hope it happens for you soon. Try to plan nice things to do for yourself. Self care is so important.

Thanks for all the replies. One of my good friends just text me to tell me she's pregnant. She knows about the miscarriages so prob wanted to make sure she told me herself. I am genuinely delighted for her, but I'm also jealous.

I've heard about taking baby aspirin and progesterone. The doctor in the EPU the last day I went in for a check up seemed to know what he was talking about. He said that they don't prescribe the progesterone until a heart beat is detected, it was dangerous or something. I suppose you don't really want to artificially increase an unnecessary hormone. But he said I could get a cream once I got a positive test again. He also said to put off trying again for 2/3 months. I think that's just for the emotional side, nothing medical really. I'm not putting it off though. Each time it has taken me around 6 months to actually get pregnant.
Hopefully it happens soon. I'll prob moan about lack of sleep then!

@Irishfarmer ah I didn't know that about progesterone. Maybe it's something I'll see about if I get pregnant again.

I agree with you about trying again straight away. I'd rather continue now in case it takes a while to conceive. Also I feel like the only thing that will make me feel better emotionally is to get pregnant again so we've definitely jumped back into it.

I'm currently pregnant for the 3rd time after a MMC & MC. Around 6 weeks (going for a scan soon to check), I'm on progesterone, baby aspirin & fragmin blood thinning injections but I have a clotting condition so my blood tends to clot quicker hence the injections

Also hoping it's 3rd time lucky

I the Dr had already put me on the high does folic while we were trying because of my BMI, EPU put me on the progesterone but would on do it after my 4th , I asked after my 3rd and they said low progesterone can be a symptom of a failing pregnancy not always the cause, after my 4th they let me try it !

Hi there, had 2 chemicals and then another loss at 8 weeks in January (surgical intervention) but I am 11 weeks pregnant now. Unsure of where you are but I'm in the UK and was put on progesterone basically immediately after my BFP.
I understand the internal conflict of wanting to be happy for others but also being jealous and needing to block it our for your own sanity. Your time will come I'm sure. Lots of hugs.

I had four miscarriages before dd1 and another one before dd2. I took baby aspirin with both my successful pregnancies. You’re obviously fertile so take that as a positive. Miscarriages are actually a very normal and common thing even though they’re upsetting and disappointing. Keep trying and take some aspirin

Lulu I'm in Ireland. But our health system is pretty good on pregnancy anyway. I'll def ask my GP about it too, she's very good on a lot of more modern practices/ ideas. She'll have to refer me to epu anyway but they said no matter how many weeks come straight in. Who doesn't love what I call "the wand" up your lady part! Good to hear about some success stories

OP sorry for your losses
I have a DS, he's 4. No trouble first time round. I'm now 35 and have been trying for the last year. Two miscarriages later (April and July, both around 7 weeks) and I'm wondering if Aspirin may help. I've read a lot about it and just seeing previous posters talk about it makes me want to try it if I fall again. Good luck!