If you ovulate on a Monday, which days would you DTD?

[Labalabee]

Just wondering if my thinking is the right thinking!

Saturday Sunday Monday Tuesday 🙈

Ooh this is encouraging as we planned to DTD yesterday (Friday) but we left it too late in the evening and got too tired.

And now I’m worried we’ve left it too late for this morning!

Every day. I enjoy it far more when I'm not counting days.

DH is not up for every day…!

We had ivf eventually. However at our first consultation with the fertility consultant, she said every other day was optimum… if that helps

If you are “sure” you ovulate on Monday then: Friday, Saturday, Monday - best chances. There is absolutely no point in having sex every day if your husband isn’t up for it. Every two days is enough. So could also be Friday, Sunday and Monday again. If you want then of course every day : Friday- Tuesday :)

Tuesday

Every other day until ovulation day then DTD the day after too 😊 Good luck 🤞🏼

@Orangejuicemarathoner

Tuesday

Why??

I agree with PPs saying basically a few days before ovulation, the day of and a day after if plus again a couple of days later in case ovulation is delayed for some reason but actually as much as we could manage.

Have you heard of the sperm meets egg plan?

because that is what I was told during fertility investigations

@Orangejuicemarathoner I believe an egg onky stays around for 24 hours roughly and sperm can live up to five (ish) days so it would make sense to do it on the day and few days before as well usually

@Orangejuicemarathoner hey, I don’t know what sort of doctor told you that but it’s absolutely not true, change doctors/treatments as this is false and maybe that’s why you are having problems. A simple google will give you the answer. As PP said: egg only ever lives for 12 hours (up to 24hrs in some rarer cases). So sex post ovulation date makes almost zero sense- it won’t hurt of course just in case u had ovulation date wrong in the first place. Sperm lives 2-5 days, therefore you need to be activate BEFORE ovulation

I think this might be partial reason why some people are struggling… perhaps they just aren’t aware of the absolute basics and if they were things would be different…

Wondering the exact same here OP. It's confusing and different websites tell you different things.

Should you DTD every day or every other day?
How long after a positive ovulation test do you actually ovulate?
Is the most fertile day 2 days before or the day before ovulation?

Waaaa!

We did SMEP when baby number one was conceived. Currently trying for number two and we did the "every other day" thing this month, mainly due to busy schedules.

There's an awful lot of theory out there, some debate, and a small amount of absolute science. Given that most women won't be sure when they ovulate, opks might recognise a spike that doesn't lead to actual ov or ov might happen an indeterminate amount of time afterwards, some men might produce an amount or quality of sperm which benefits from a rest day between DTD and on and on and on, all advice will need to be considered somewhat generic.

We do know that the egg will deteriorate to the point of not being viable 12hrs or so after ovulation, sometimes later, sometimes earlier but thereabouts on a population level, and we know sperm can live for up to a week in the right conditions. So sex logically should be timed in the days leading up to ovulation, on the day itself and maybe the next day too if you really want to cover all bases but the day afterwards isn't so important.

In a normally fertile couple, regular sex throughout the days between the end of your period and ovulation will likely prove sufficient. No need to calendar watch. But you do need to be reasonably sure of your cycle, otherwise sex ever 2-3 days throughout your cycle is fine, just in case you ovulate later than average.

[quote Elisemum]@Orangejuicemarathoner hey, I don’t know what sort of doctor told you that but it’s absolutely not true, change doctors/treatments as this is false and maybe that’s why you are having problems. A simple google will give you the answer. As PP said: egg only ever lives for 12 hours (up to 24hrs in some rarer cases). So sex post ovulation date makes almost zero sense- it won’t hurt of course just in case u had ovulation date wrong in the first place. Sperm lives 2-5 days, therefore you need to be activate BEFORE ovulation[/quote]
well, I have two children, so the instructions I was given at the clinic clearly worked for me.

Im not saying don't do other days as well if you can, but we could only do one day, and were told to do the day after ovulation

I wonder why you were given that advice @Orangejuicemarathoner because even the most cursory Google will confirm that the egg can remain viable for 12hrs but that sex in the days leading up to and on the day of ovulation is the sex that is likely to work. Once the egg is released, it deteriorates rapidly. I ovulate in the early morning usually. By the next day, it's overwhelmingly likely that I'd be wasting my time. Maybe there was something specific about your situation or maybe you misunderstood? Realistically, it's not good advice for the general population though.

It were you told the day after a positive opk because that might make more sense?

@ShowOfHands is absolutely right, maybe there was something specific in your case but this “advise” is absolutely incorrect for 95% of population. Maybe you misunderstood? Especially if it was the case when you let’s say only have ONE day to do it (example: one of you is away or something) then it MUST be before ovulation, never after.

And what I said above is very basic/largely available knowledge… your case may have been different as we are all different and I’m glad it worked for you, but please don’t repeat this advise to others

@ShowOfHands

It were you told the day after a positive opk because that might make more sense?

maybe I am remembering it wrong

Anyway, I have two children, so it worked