I will never trust a late period again

[Willow231]

10 days late.

Really believed I had a chance this time. 10 days late. Never been that late before. Tried so hard not to get my hopes up but after 5 missed days I couldn't help feeling a bit hopeful. Then 6 days passed, then 7. I had been testing negative up until that point but couldn't understand why when my period was so late.

I optimistically ordered some FRERs from amazon. Then the morning they were due to arrive, the spotting started and I knew it was too good to be true. Another fucking month unsuccessful, only this month was particularly devastating as I thought I missed a period. Like some sort of cruel joke played by the universe.

I'm so angry at myself for allowing myself to believe I had a chance. I will never trust a late period again.

OP I can totally relate. My period was late last mo the and I'm never late. I also had every pregnancy symptom going. I was doing my bit to stay chilled-no symptom spotting or googling etc but my body kept giving me these symptoms AND a late period. When I got a BFN I was so cross with my body! It was like it had been taunting me! It felt so cruel! I literally wouldn't trust any symptom again! I think a lot of it is psychosomatic unfortunately! X

Thank you for the replies. I'm so angry and upset this evening. Three friends this weekend announced their pregnancies on social media, and while I am happy for them, it has just rubbed salt into the wounds. On top of being childless I'm also selfish and bitter 😔

Yeah, I’ve been there. Have learnt to mostly ignore my “symptoms” now and just wait for AF now, but once it a while it still tricks me into thinking it could be The Month. It never is

@Willow231 you're not selfish or bitter you're just a woman TTC experiencing entirely understandable emotions.

This month my gums bled which has only ever happened twice in my life-this week and the week before I got my BFP with my daughter, but still woke up to my period this morning!!!!!

I'm definitely not going to test any more and just wait for my period! X

My period was 5 days late and thought I had a chance this time. Been ttc for 9 months now with no luck only a chemicals store March. Going to stop tracking everything and testing early from now on. Can’t bear the disappointment each month, it’s not good for me. I believe the less stress we put on ourselves the more of a chance we’ll have

It might be worth tracking ovulation so you don't fall into the trap of thinking your period is late when in reality it was just ovulation that was late? I'm sorry you got your hopes but I'm also super impressed you managed to hold off testing for that long!

You aren’t selfish or bitter OP, you’re normal. TTC can be a traumatic business when it goes on and on and on. I began to get very withdrawn and actively avoided pregnant friends or people with young children, it got harder after an early miscarriage and then it was more than a year before we conceived again, baby due in 7 weeks. It was a very difficult time and I gave myself a hard time over it and still do. I’d urge you to be as kind and forgiving to yourself as you can, it’s a difficult path to walk.