Recurrent miscarriage

[ChinChilly]

Hi,

I think I'm just looking for some reassurance and positive stories, I had a third loss at the end of June, where we went for our routine 12 week scan but there was no heart beat and growth had stopped around 8+6. I've been reffered to Tommy's in Birmingham and have an appointment on 24th November but I'm pretty sure I'm currently having a chemical pregnancy at the moment. It's really starting to get me down that my body can't seem to do what most people find so easy and I'm starting to worry I may never be able to carry a baby.

Please send any positive stories my way, I need some hope to cling on to!

@ChinChilly I just wanted to acknowledge your message and say sorry for you losses. It’s truly the most heartbreaking thing we can go through I think and it’s so unfair. I had a MMC earlier this year then a CP and I’m nervous I’m having another CP now due to decreasing progesterone although still ‘pregnant’ at the moment. The frustration, anger and sadness I feel at my body is tiring! I just don’t understand it :( so I really understand how you are feeling. I think help is out there, we just need to get in front of the right people , it will happen for you. I really hope your referral appointments happens soon

@Blondiebrownie6 thank you for your message, so sorry for your loses and hope you're not having another CP. I really struggle to understand it aswell, I think it's the feeling of you do everything right and this happens, it's really difficult to get my head round. I'm hoping for some answers at the recurrent miscarriage clinic as I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall with my own GP.

Not recurrent but I had a MMC followed by CP. I was paranoid all through my pregnancy as I didn't think I would ever be successful. However I was, it can happen. Good luck with your investigation and I hope you have good news very very soon

Hi @ChinChilly

I'm sorry for your losses. I had two miscarriages in a row within 6 months. With the 2nd miscarriage I was fighting for progesterone support and got it privately but not until 5 weeks and unfortunately still miscarried. I am now pregnant 16 weeks 5 days and this time I started progesterone when I found out I was pregnant before my period was due. I was also on low dose aspirin (both 75mg or 81mg are fine) daily since the second miscarriage. I have private blood monitoring with a fertility clinic who prescribed me progesterone. My progesterone was low and even dropped at 7 weeks with this pregnancy and I had spotting for about 10 days until 9 weeks. I'm still on progesterone now (cyclogest 400mg twice daily) and this is unusual usually it stops at 12 weeks but my progesterone is still a little low hope to get off it soon.

My experience of Gp is the same they could do nothing expect say I'm sorry. As you have had 3 recurrent losses you should be able to access to recurrent miscarriage clinics but sometimes private clinics are better its hard to tell.

There is hope, I'm on the miscarriages association forum- pregnancy after loss and 3 of us who became pregnant around the same time all with multiple losses and all had spotting during first trimester but so far all is going well in our pregnancies with a little help.

Its very tough, I previously had infertility for 4 years and needed multiple ivf cycles to conceive and this time around suddenly many years later I could conceive easily but had repeated miscarriages. There's a lot of us out there I think people just don't talk about it openly offline.

Hi OP, just wanted to send you a big hug. I had three miscarriages within the space of about two years. There was seemingly no medical reason for the losses. We underwent a genetic test of the "conception material" (really sorry if the term upsets you, it's what our doctor called it), but there was no genetic problem that could account for the losses.

When I became pregnant for the fourth time I genuinely didn't think it would continue, but it did. It was the first time I'd heard a heartbeat during a scan and I cried my eyes out. I didn't do anything differently; it was just the one that seemed to stick.

DD was born three years ago. I haven't had any other children (through choice) so I've no idea it the problem would've reoccurred if we'd tried again.

I hope my story provides some comfort.

@Newnameday thank you 💐

@Phoenix2021 thank you for your reply, lovely to here you're now quite far along in your pregnancy. Interesting about the low progesterone I do wonder if mine is on the low side, the month I got my BFP which ended in MMC I had a 21 day progesterone blood test which showed 33 and I think the threshold is 30 so it was borderline in my eyes.

@UnsolicitedDickPic thank you for replying, that does give me some hope. My recent MMC has been sent off for genetic testing, I am yet to here the results but I believe it can take around 12 weeks so hopefully I'll get those soon. I did wonder what happens next if no issues are found but I guess it's just keep trying until one sticks.

Sorry to hear that. I had a mmc in December and a cp in March. I'm now 15+1 and insanely anxious about everything but hang in there, it'll happen.

Hi everyone, I’m new here and looking for a bit of advice although i'm not sure if this thread is still active, but will give it a go :)

I was wondering if anyone had went down the track of testing after multiple miscarriages and got pregnant while doing that?

The reason I ask is after having 3 miscarriages in the last 18 months I finally had my consultation with St Mary’s recurrent miscarriage clinic in London. They told me that I’d need a 3D scan done and only need to have one set of bloods done (my doctor had sent me for a full round of bloods + ASP and lupus after my 2nd miss and all came back normal).

I thought the process would be pretty quick but when my appointments came through I was looking at Nov for bloods, end of Dec for the scan and end of Jan for the follow up consultation and they tell you not to be pregnant until after the follow up app.

I’ve managed to arrange for the scan to be done privately (this week and all was normal) to try and speed things up but it’s not helped much.

I’m 39 - almost 40 and I feel that with two out of three of the tests all normal not trying for another 3 cycles until the final assessment feels like a waste. Has anyone had anything similar? Did anyone get pregnant while in the care of St Mary’s before the tests were finished and what happened?

Any advice or just reassurance welcome! :)