10dpo bfn.. feeling deflated

[thesilentuser]

Hey..

I know, I know 10dpo is too early. But I'm just feeling so flat. I don't really have anyone to talk too because, I don't really want people to know we're actively trying.

This isn't my first, I have one (not so) little girl who's 6 with a previous.. but also I caught with my ex partner about 3 years ago.. Please no profiling, but we did decide to terminate.. it was the best decision for the time, it was the saddest and hardest thing I've had to ever commit too. But it was also the best and safest for our previous situation..

This is our 7th cycle. I am feeling that this is my payback for the termination. I've met, what I can only describe as my perfect half. And we have been trying for 7 months (had copper iud out in feb.) probably actively trying for 3 now; with vitamins, temping and charting..

I'm 10dpo. I had really awful what I can only explain for the time and in correlation to the app was my ovulation pain. We have dtd regularly and do regularly too. It's a healthy lifestyle we have and no pressure regarding "tonight's the night"

But I've gotten a bfn.. and I know I'm not out, but I just read so many women who find out at 9dpo.. 10dpo and I've gotten my negative.

I feel this isn't ever going to happen. I feel I've made a mistake with the termination and has that caused problems for me now. I've even been bullied by my own thoughts over second guessing should I of had that vaccination (because of all the false things going around) and I even work within the medical field! That's how ridiculous I feel at the moment..

From 2dpo, I've had a few cramps.. 5dpo I've had back ache, cramps, enhanced smell... 8dpo with the symptoms still there I developed a scratchy throat.. and I thought why not. I wish I didn't

I just had a little cry in my car over break.. and I'm babbling on here because as I said, I just don't have anyone to talk too. I don't want to talk to my partner because it is an unnecessary pressure to add I think especially when I'm making myself like this

I wouldn't say I'm stressing or getting poorly. But I'd be lying if I said I wasn't looking for any sign, that this hasn't taken over my spare time thoughts.

Has anyone had a bfp after a negative? Is anyone else feeling like this and could seek a little comfort in venting like me on here x

To add to this.
My previous pregnancies, I know I can get pregnant.. but why is it taking this long

We're both under 30, we don't smoke or drink.. we live a relatively active life (active jobs) I just don't understand

Hi, @thesilentuser

Don't have much in the way of advice but I didn't want to read this and not message you. I'm also 10DPO, cycle 14 after the late loss of my son last summer. I know how all-consuming and deflating TTC is, particularly around testing time so just know you're not alone and if you need anyone to vent to, feel free to give me a message any time ❤️

Also, please know this is NOT you being "punished" for a termination. Please don't allow yourself to think that; you had to do what was right for you at that time in your life, and I'm sure it would have been an incredibly difficult thing to experience so please be kind to yourself ❤️

I have googled your question loads over the past 14 months and lots of women don't get BFPs until 12dpo or even later! You're not out until you're out, as they say 🤞 x

Sorry to hear your struggling TTC is such a roller coaster. Really does suck sometimes.

I was 11dpo tested and BFP. Kind of think I’m out as feel like periods coming. But lots of ppl get positives only after 12/13dpo. So until AF always there is always that hope.

Don’t let your think it’s punishment. I’m the same. My brain works that way an you think we’ll maybe I’m a bad person. Isn’t how it works. It’s just timing and luck and a bit of patience. As hard as that is 😫

We will now be going into cycle 5 when AF shows which I’m sure she will. So hand hold.

I have a 3.5 year old and would prefer the gap to not get loads bigger but it is what it is.

Hi @thesilentuser I am 10 dpo too, cycle 22, and just got a bfn, it is very deflating so I am sorry you are going though the stress too.

There may be nothing wrong at all, three months actively trying is not too long at all and some people with no issues at all can take up to a year so don't assume that there is. Also, you definitely aren't being punished! Sounds like you made the right decision.