When to test?

[Nicolelinda96]

Hi guys. I recently had what may have been a chemical pregnancy.

I miscarried at 5.5 weeks and the bleeding stopped around 15 days ago. We have been having sex regularly (2-3 times a week) since about 2 days after the bleeding stopped. There is a possibility that you can conceive soon after a miscarriage, so I do plan on taking a test at some point unless my period arrives within the next couple of weeks. I had mild symptoms last time (I found out at 4.5 ish weeks) and was already having mild symptoms (bloating, cramps, larger breasts) . Should I just wait to see if any symptoms happen? I’m very impatient lol and will struggle to hold off for very long! Should I wait a month and if I have mild symptoms or no period, test then? I will be using a first response as they are the most sensitive.

Note: my hcg will be below 5 now as I feel back to normal and it was very very low anyway.

You just figured out that you ovulated around Monday. No way you could get a BFP by now. I don't want to sound harsh, don't get me wrong please but I think you need to take a step back and try to relax a little. I know it's hard, as it's beyond our control. But stressing about the whole TTC won't help at all. Test two weeks after your ovulation, so maybe Sunday in a week. Safe your money and test in the meantime.

I caved and tested this morning didn’t I? Of course it was negative. The good thing is that I’m barely into a month of trying and I certainly wouldn’t expect it to happen that soon anyway, plus it shows my hcg is now lower than the threshold for pregnancy. It’s a clean slate I suppose.

Regardless, the days are moving so slowly and all I can think about is TTC. It’s scaring me to death reading about people having multiple chemicals before a baby. So even that longed for bfp will probably not equal a baby anyway. I’m
Not going to be happy until I’m at least 8 weeks into a healthy pregnancy to be honest. It’s nice to know that we are actively trying now, including supplements and sperm friendly lube, but I feel like I’m becoming quite depressed. I’ll find brief joy in a nice meal with friends or a date night with my partner, but the constant reminder that I’m not a mum remains and it hurts so much. I don’t know how to make myself feel better whilst TTC when I have no idea how long it’ll take and even if I get a positive test, it’s likely to be a chemical anyway.

I don't know what to say to make it better for you. There is a hole left when you lose a pregnancy and it seems impossible to fill. I got to the point of feeling suicidal after the last loss. It was an accumulation of things but being physically unwell and unable to care for my child tipped me over the edge. HOWEVER, I don't know how but I just had to carry on and living proof of pregnancy after multiple losses. You will be ok but it takes time. Allow yourself to grieve and don't be hard on yourself thinking you should be ok by now. There is practical help out there if you do suffer multiple losses but the majority go on to have a healthy pregnancy after one loss.
All the best for the future ❤