TTC and new job

[Pixie921]

Hi all 👋

I've posted a couple of times after finding out I was pregnant, to sadly having an early miscarriage at 6 weeks - safe to say it has been a whirlwind few weeks here 😑

Before I found out I was pregnant I had applied for a job and got an interview, the interview actually fell on the day I learnt I had suffered a miscarriage so I decided I would push on with it after all the work I had put into my application. I have a final interview this afternoon and I just want to know what everyone's opinions are.

We are now actively TTC following the miscarriage, I am currently employed and this is a permanent WFH job (sounds great and it has its perks but god it can be lonely), if I were to be successful the new job would work out to be around 6K more than I earn at the moment but wouldn't be a WFH job. I guess the question I'm asking is should I really be actively applying for jobs if I am planning to get pregnant as soon as possible. I know the one downfall will be the maternity pay but I can't shake off the feeling of how terrible it would look if I were to start a new role and fall pregnant quite quickly.

This is all theoretical at the mo so many ifs and buts!

Hi Pixie
Firstly, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Life can be cruel sometimes.
On the job front, I am in a similar situation in that career wise, I should be looking for a new job if I want to progress as have been in the same role for too long but I am TTC and also feel totally torn. Obviously it is really had to tell how long TTC will take but now 18 months in, I wish I had got a new job at the beginning (I naively assumed I would conceive quickly). Now I am even more frustrated as looks like TTC is a never ending journey and I still don't feel like I can move and I have been in the job even longer!
I was one given advice in a totally different context but can relate it to this- until you have all the options in front of you, you don't have a choice at all. I.e if you got offered the job and weren't yet pregnant, remove the option of staying in your current team and having a baby as that is not an option at the moment. Make decisions with whatever options are available to you. I pass this on but have been awful at listening to it myself!!
In terms of maternity leave, do you have a good package now you would be giving up?

@LondonladyTTC Thankyou, it all happened so fast! I speak to my partner about this situation a lot and he keeps reassuring me there are probably loads of people in exactly the same situation and that you shouldn't delay your life for a job. Totally agree with your advice there it's just hard to shake when you know you can't really be discriminated against for being pregnant, but I know what people would think - or at least I think they do, I don't want to seek unreliable etc.
Everything has just come at once for us at the moment, I was made redundant from a role earlier this year that I had been in for a while and loved, joined a new company and whilst it's okay I wouldn't say I am loving it but would make do if I were to fall pregnant, now I find myself stuck between wanting to do something I may enjoy more or sticking it out and hoping to fall pregnant fast - but like you said it's something you can never predict. Currently maternity is 14 weeks at 90% of my salary followed by the remaining at statutory so is better than the standard, however to qualify for this you only had to work for the company for a couple of weeks whereas I'm not sure on the other companies maternity leave and don't feel like this is something I can really ask at interview.