To try for a girl

[mousepen]

I have 3 year old boy and then we lost our girl at 34 weeks due to no cause my life just ended, we luckily fell pregnant very quick after as a way of trying to heal, we had another boy who is here now I absolutely adore him in a way he saved my life.
I just can't shake the feeling of wanting a girl, too of had one and not been able to keep her is just horrendous I know I can't replace her but now I can't see my life without a girl, if I had never experienced those feeling when I was pregnant with her then I would of felt complete with my boys but I did,
I brought up trying again, my husband is just worried incase it happened again and wants to move on with our life which I understand and I do aswel to some degree, but he understands. I will always regret it we didn't try again and it cud of been a girl but it's a risk even tho I would love another boy if it was and I think 3 boys would be amazing like a little gang , it's so complex I can't stop thinking about it all, any advice? Anyone had similar heartbreak?

So sorry for your loss. My best friend was in a similar situation. There is a book you can get that explains how to improve your chances of having a particular sex - think for a girl it raises chances to 75% rather than 50/50. Might be worth a read, if you decide to go ahead (apologies - I don't know the name of the book, but am sure someone on here will)

Thanks, did your friend have a girl to take home in the end? How did she feel then?

She did

I’m really sorry for your loss. I’m sure there will be people out there selling books, schedules and potions telling you how to have a girl but ultimately you will need to decide if you want another child, not just a girl. It is ultimately going to be 50/50. People will say they followed a certain plan and had a girl but really you could say that about anything and no one knows if worked - plenty if confirmation bias on here with all sorts of supplements, symptoms etc. Good luck whatever you decide x

Hi, thanks I'm not after advice on how to have a girl really I know that's down to fate, just advice on if I shud even try, or will I learn to live with all this sadness, I don't even know what I'm asking actually.

Op I'm not sure it's something you have considered but sex selection of embryos legal in the US.

Also sperm selection is legal in Cyprus.

@mousepen I'm so sorry for your loss OP, I lost my DS1 a few years ago so I understand your heartbreak to some degree but I know everyones heartbreak over loss is different. We went on to have DS2 and he has absolutely filled our lives with so much joy, we are so blessed to have him, but he hasn't taken away the hole in our hearts & the longing for our DS1 to be here too. I think if you lose a girl & then don't go on to have another you'll always have that longing, and vice versa, but ultimately it doesn't take away the pain & heartbreak from losing your baby. I'm not saying you're trying to replace your little girl as I know nothing could ever do that, but for you to begin trying again I think you need to want a baby, not a specific sex. The sadness unfortunately is everlasting, but so is the love❤️
Sending lots of love your way!