Delaying ttc by just a few months but is age a factor ?

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If you were a few months off 40 is any delay unwise?

We are agreed on ttc for one more but it’s timing I’m worried due to age I should start ASAP but dp thinks delay 6 months so that we can book a holiday next summer and dc start full time school next sept before any potential baby arrives

I’m really not sure what to do

While age is a factor of course, I don't think that delaying it for a couple of months will make much difference honestly. If it's going to be hard now, it's going to be hard in a couple of months. If it's going to be easy now, it's not going to chance in 6 month. But as it might possibly take a while until you get pregnant, you might say "why didn't we start earlier". Honestly, I don't think I would wait. Of course there is a chance that you will get pregnant right away, but the chances of TTC for a while is a lot bigger I think.

honestly at nearly 40 i wouldn't be delaying for the sake of a holiday although a couple a months is unlikely to make much difference overall. but if you wait 6 months and it takes you a long time you may regret it.

Personally a holiday wouldn't be a good enough reason to take the chance.

There are pros to a baby arriving whilst the children are home too.

Delay for six months? Errr no, I really wouldn’t.

Yes this is my worry what if it takes ages anyway

How long did it take to conceive your DC?

I would just get on with it to be honest. Sadly, false starts due to miscarriage are so common. It took us one month to conceive dd1 when I was 38 then, after two miscarriages, we finally managed to produce dd2 at 43 which really was cutting it fine. Menopausal now and she is only 4!

Sounds like delaying it to Jan is all you need really? Then you can still go on hol and baby will be born in Sep at the very earliest.

Saying that, I wouldn't be delaying at 40, not for those reasons anyway!

No, I'd just get on with it. I started ttc 2 years ago thinking a September birthday when ds started full time nursery would be nice. 3 losses later and we're no further on.

I would start now.
Trying to conceive number 2 and it’s nearly one year and nothing.

I think you would be very foolish to wait at your age.

Well if you wait and then you have trouble conceiving how are you going to feel? Becuase if you think you might think "It might be becuase we waited" then it wouldn't be a good idea. Becuase if you start now and conceive right away you might think "Ah we could have waited!" you still get a baby. But wait months and then don't conceive and you wouldn't know if that was why, and if it takes you a few months to conceive then you'll be about where you wanted anyway.

Ignore the spelling of "because" there ^^!

Apologies, I can spell because!

Neither of those sound like good reasons to delay.

Unless it’s a one off opportunity to book a once-in-a-lifeime trip or visit family abroad or something important that you would deeply regret missing.

And unless your other DC has additional needs etc that are likely to make the transition to school particularly challenging with a new sibling in the mix.

Otherwise just crack on with it - it’s a win win situation. If it takes you longer than 6 months to conceive then you get your summer holiday and DC starts school before any baby arrives. And if you fall pregnant quickly and have a baby next spring/summer then fantastic - the sacrifice of missing a holiday and having a lot of upheaval at the same time as school starting is trivial compared to the fact that you are welcoming a new baby into the family and are spared the anguish of months of unsuccessfully TTC.

Worst case scenario- if you have difficulty TTC you will be tormenting yourself with the ‘what if’ those 6 months could have made all the difference.