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Giving up ttc - need help...

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julesrose · 28/11/2007 09:35

I have a dd who is now 4 but have been trying for a second child for 2 1/2 years - have had IUI ad IVF and recently some investigations that show fertility is mighty low. TTC has occupied life for so long now - monthly cycle of trying, hoping and disappointment is wearing me down and my relationship with dp has taken some battering. I'm feeling like I need to accept family size and move on but still feel desperately sad I won't have another baby and guilty dd won't have a sibling. Has anyone had similar experience? How do you cope with it?

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Sticki · 28/11/2007 10:21

Just wanted to offer support and a bump. Sorry you havent had any luck ttc#2. Its really hard.
Am also interested in anyone's experience of coming to terms with a small family size as have also been ttc #2 for 2 yrs now with failed iui and ivf. Am currently thinking of options. Having good and bad days.
Good luck

bamamama · 28/11/2007 10:28

From my experience I just tried to read as much positive stuff about having a single child (don't like the term 'only') and focussed on what would be good about the situation (easier said than done I know). There have been some good threads on MN about the positives of having one child so it may be worth a search.
Alternatively, if you're positive that your family isn't complete is adopting an option?

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julesrose · 28/11/2007 14:57

I have thought about adoption and I don't think it's for me - it feels like it would be another two years at least of stress and who knows how it would work out...Sticki - how does your dp help / support you. Mine finds it really hard as he can't 'fix it'.

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anniemac · 01/12/2007 10:56

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karabiner · 01/12/2007 11:01

Hi, similiar situation to you - but my child is now 5 - as he gets older I do feel more positive about stopping ttc and being a smaller family - maybe since he started school and is getting wider influences there, I feel more positive about it.

I guess I am saying that starting school has helped me see beyond ttc and all things related to it.

Also now an age that is really nice to do things together and so I have started to arrange nice things to do together which also has really helped.

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