Too old???

[Nazza32]

Thoughts & experiences welcome of older mums out there...
I'm 42 and extremely blessed to already have a healthy 4 year old daughter and 1 year old son.

We've started to give some of our baby things away (especially as people have been asking for it, assuming that we won't have anymore due to my age and the fact that we have the 'perfect one of each' already) and it's filled me with a lot of sadness that I won't / may not have another.
I always wanted 3 children - but there are obviously many factors to consider - not least of which is my age.
I did have 2 really straightforward pregnancies and uncomplicated natural births with no interventions so have been lucky on that front.

Any experiences of older mums out there who have deliberately tried for another at this age? Part of me thinks it's too risky, part of me thinks it would be lovely for my two to have another sibling.

Any thoughts welcome...

I'm 39 and we have been trying for about a year now.
We are high risk so I'm on a high dosage of folate.
Unfortunately we haven't had any luck, I'm wondering if it is due to our age...

I had my first (after a long time of trying) just shy of my 42 birthday & had a absolutely easy pregnancy & birth was textbook. Although I am exhausted with a toddler friends a decade younger reassure me that they are too!
If you are fit, healthy & can afford it why not

Go for it! My friend just had her 4th at 43. It wasn't a walk in the park due to health issues but it's all worked out well.

Someone actually asked me the other day if I wanted another child. I'm 40. Theres absolutely no way on earth I would have another - my personal choice. I don't judge others for having children older. But personally I don't want the hassle and the stress and to deal with the whole pregnancy and early years again not to mention the baby weight etc. I also couldn't imagine being 80 while my kids are only just 40. I will be close to that when my youngest turns 40 anyways, and it honestly makes me a bit sad knowing I likely won't see DC2 and their children grow up much past that age.

@Want2bMumof3 Oh I really hope you succeed. I know how hard it is on you emotionally when TTC, it can be all consuming month-to-month

@suziedoozy yes I think this is sooo true - we don't know any different right? My first had reflux & cmpa so was particularly upset and hard work for the first year, we really didn't get much sleep. Yes I was knackered, and still am but I certainly don't have any less energy or get up and go than mums who are 10 yrs younger than me.

@WineGetsMeThroughIt - lol wine gets me through it sometimes too . Yes that's def another angle to the decision - pregnancy and early years are tough and draining. There's also the logistical changes (bigger car, bigger house) & the ridiculous costs of UK childcare to consider. I wouldn't say we're flushed, we'd have to reconsider some of our lifestyle choices in order to have another.
I get what you mean about being sad that you may not get to see your children grow up much beyond age 40. That makes me sad too, but I also think having siblings is another gift and they'll have each other for the rest of their lives.

Thanks @Nazza32 I'm out again this month. I have one more month before it is game over so I've pretty much given up hope.

I agree with what you say about siblings being a gift to each other though. Wholeheartedly.

I’m 39 and trying for number two . My 1st is 2