TTC after 3+ miscarriages

[MsK89]

Hi Ladies

Just wanted to start a thread for others in this unfortunate club :(

I have had 4 miscarriages, 3 of them this year. Not having much luck with fertility support & waiting an outcome of my complaint to the hospital atm.

Just had a positive ovulation result today. Not sure whether to try again this month, or just admit defeat 😭

Hi @MsK89 I'm so sorry for your losses ❤️ I had my 5th last month after my first ivf cycle. Its shit.

Have you had any recurrent miscarriage testing? I did the nhs standard tests but they found nothing. I then did the uterine nk cells tests which was normal so we tried again and I had my 4th loss, so after that we went private and I've been diagnosed with aggressive nk cells and adenomyosis. But we then couldn't conceive, hence the ivf. But I implanted late and had heavy bleeding. So before we do another transfer, I'm going the Endometrio tests to check my implantation window and for inflammation or infections.

I'm sorry you've been through similar xx

Hi @VenusStarr thanks for sharing your story.

After my first miscarriage I was diagnosed with a septate uterus. I was told it didn’t need to be removed as it shouldn’t effect future pregnancies. After my third miscarriage though, a gynaecologist recommended surgery and said he wouldn’t do any more testing on me at this time.

So I am thinking of going private too, I saved up some money last year from not going on holiday. I know with my uterus there is an increased chance of miscarriage but I’m also worried there is something else which is stopping me from having a baby

It really sucks doesn’t it. I thought I was coping ok, until I saw a YouTube video last week of someone’s birth experience and I was so jealous. I have to avoid social media at the moment as I get angry that I can’t have a baby :(

Sorry for your losses OP
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It really sucks doesn’t it. I thought I was coping ok, until I saw a YouTube video last week of someone’s birth experience and I was so jealous. I have to avoid social media at the moment as I get angry that I can’t have a baby :(*

Completely agree with this I feel similar.

I've booked private consultation for Wednesday after my second loss. It's not confirmed a loss yet but the bleeding is too heavy for it to be anything else.

I hope to get some answers I really can't deal with further losses x

@fertilitybs how far long do you think you are? Have you had cramps and clots? If you haven’t yet, then it may not be over. Praying for you xxx

@fertilitybs how did you get on hun? x

@MsK89 @MrsS89K thank you both for asking, sadly it was confirmed a loss last week.

I've had fertility tests a few days ago. I am feeling positive though, the consultant has given me hope but how just testing to rule out any problems as if I can avoid further unnecessary losses then I will do everything I can xx

@enoughforme sorry to hear that 💔

@MrsS89K thank you so much. Emotionally I've dealt with it and honestly I'm feeling fine about it now and positive for the next conception ☺️

@enoughforme I’m glad you said that, as that’s how I’ve felt after my last few miscarriages. I’ve obviously been sad the day I found out & maybe the day after, but then I’ve just been keen for the bleeding to stop so I can try again!

Do you mind me asking how you ended up getting referred for testing, do you have to ask the doctor to refer you or will they do it anyway? I have 2 children already but just had 2 mc in a row so just want to be prepared for next steps. Not even sure if the second one will count as it was at 4 weeks so technically a chemical pregnancy i guess. Do you know if you have to get to a certain point for them to include it as 1 of the 3?

@MrsS89K that's exactly how I felt! I'm pretty pragmatic about this kind of thing and think eventually it will happen x

@Beleeve I have gone private. So everything has been very quick I've had my consultation and blood tests all in a week. I have another medical condition which has been dealt with terribly by NHS I haven't got the patience and luxury of waiting for them to refer me (35 TTC first child so want answers sooner rather than later)

@Beleeve you have to ask your GP to refer you. I’ve been back and forth to EPU for the last year now but they aren’t able to refer me. I’ve asked for testing but not been offered any yet, instead they just said they will do karaotyping on my next miscarriage 🙈 been offered surgery for the medical issue I have with my womb though, but who knows how long that will take as they said there’s a waiting list. That was a few months ago and not heard anything since
I’m starting to think about just going private like @enoughforme

Thank you @MrsS89K and @enoughforme that's really helpful. I have actually already been referred to a gynae as i had been trying for over 12months without falling pregnant. I was put on the waiting list almost a year ago and the appointment has been cancelled twice. Next one is due next week but i have no faith it will happen plus as my situation has now changed i don't know if i'll then get put on a different waiting list. I'm 35 also so considering either going private or just accepting my body has given up and i should be happy with what i've got. Does make me angry though,so many women have babies 35+, yet i feel like my body has shut down (fertility wise) it's not like i'm in my bloody 50s