Pregnancy success stories after 2 miscarriages

[nacarlos89]

Hi

I have had 2 miscarriages this year trying to conceive my first child. I'm 32 and have no known illnesses or anything which may impact my fertility.

I had a miscarriage at 5 and half weeks which was probably more like a chemical and got pregnant straight after again. Unfortunately, I then had a mmc at 9 weeks and baby was only measuring 6 weeks (we saw the heartbeat at the first scan).

I had surgical management with the second one on early June and found out yesterday that my hcg is now now to 48 so hopefully my cycles are almost at a point of being reset.

Just wanting to hear some positive stories from people who have had 2 or more miscarriages and had a successful pregnancy just to keep my moral up until my cycle is back. Currently I feel like a failure and that something is wrong with me. I feel like I will never be able to have a child. Some days I'm more positive but I think hearing from other may help.

Thanks in advance ❤️

I'm very sorry for your losses
I've had both a CP and MMC, third time lucky for my DS!
You are absolutely not a failure, very sadly they are both very common and no answers really as to why.
It took 8 weeks after my D&C for my period to return.
Remember, you are falling pregnant, if you weren't, that's a different story.

So sorry to hear of your losses.
I'm a little different in that I initially had two healthy pregnancies and when trying for my third had a mmc discovered at 9 weeks. Had medical management. Had a chemical pregnancy a couple of months later. Got pregnant again a couple of months later- felt very nervous and cautious about getting excited but I'm currently 21 weeks

@Purple21 congratulations on your baby, it's lovely to hear a happy story.

I'm just entering my 6th week after the surgical management so i think it could be about week 8 for my period to return too.

Yeah I guess it is good that I am actually getting pregnant and both have been the first try which I am so grateful for. I guess it just takes a bit of patience. I've finally made it back to the gym after the mmc and am trying to focus on being healthier as I think that also improves mental health.

@Whereland aww so happy to hear your current pregnancy is going well. I imagine when you've been through one mc or more it makes getting what you want even more magical. Wishing you loads of positivity and happiness in your pregnancy.

Thanks both for sharing, it really does make me more positive about continuing to try 💕

Sorry to hear about your experiences. I had two miscarriages last year too (one at 6 weeks and one at 12 weeks) and am currently 21 weeks pregnant. Anxiety this time has been a bit*h but things are going ok. Keep positive. I hope it happens soon!

I had 3 early (6w, 8w,11w) miscarriages before 4th pregnancy. Results (plus 5th) are currently 15yo and 13yo watching some Star Wars tatt on television in the sitting room

It is so tough. So flowers. But as PP said, you are falling pregnant which is a massive step in the right direction.

I was referred after my 3rd miscarriage. No apparent reason for any of them but I was put on aspirin (thick blood runs in the family) and progesterone when pregnant with the ones that ended successfully.

Good luck and unMNetty hugs.

So sorry to hear this OP. I had a very similar experience- MC at 6 weeks and then a MMC at 10 weeks which needed surgery.

NHS wouldn't help until I'd had 3 so after a lot of research I decided to take baby aspirin (75mg) from BFP and it resulted in my DD. I've done the same again this time around and I'm now 15 weeks. No idea if it helped but a lot of
People use it. Obviously speak with your doctor etc first but when I told them I was taking it neither the midwife or consultant was concerned and they would have made me take it from 12 weeks anyway due to clotting risks in the family. Good luck

Sorry for your losses OP
I had 2 losses, a MMC at 12 weeks for which I had the surgical management and a natural loss at 6 weeks.
Same age as you and had some basic blood tests done after the second by the GP to check there wasn't anything obvious wrong but all came back normal.
I conceived the cycle immediately after the second loss and carried to term with no issues, she's happily snoozing away on my lap!

@blakeway45 aww congratulations, so good to hear it's going well! God I can imagine the anxiety, it's bad enough after one mc. Thanks for sharing

@OhWhyDidTheyDoIt @zeromango lovely happy stories to hear ☺️ I was thinking of trying aspirin as I had a blood clot in January due to a mixture of surgery and being on the pill (even whilst taking blood thinning injections). Drs said they won't test my blood yet though which is annoying! Might start taking baby aspirin next time. I've heard it can't hurt even if thick blood isn't an issue. Fingers crossed it makes a difference.

@Riggles78 thanks for your reply. It's nice to hear that someone of the same age has had some success, makes me feel so much more positive

Thanks all for sharing and sorry that you all had to experience the losses as well but sounds like you've all got your precious little ones eventually 💕

Sorry to hear this and I know just how you feel. I had two MMCs prior to a healthy pregnancy and gave birth at 36. Then went on to have another baby. Spoke to some friends and family about it and it turns out that absolutely loads of people I know have experienced the same, sometimes more than twice. Wishing you all the best, it’s a hard road but a well trodden one! Xx

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s awful when it happens once but twice is completely crushing.
I was fortunate to have a successful first pregnancy (son, now 3) but I then suffered two miscarriages (at 12 weeks and 6 weeks). Happily, I’m now 31 weeks pregnant. Baby’s having a little wriggle now. I felt incredibly bleak after my second mc, so I hope you’re holding up ok.
A couple of things I read at that time that may help if you’re feeling as scared as I was that it would happen again:

1. One study I read found that miscarriages that occur very early (prior to fetal heartbeat, so before around 6 weeks) are much more common and much less indicative of a maternal abnormality than multiple later losses. So it may actually be reassuring that your first loss happened so early.
2. The risk of having a further miscarriage is only very slightly raised by having two in a row. There’s a section on it in this excellent and very facty, well-referenced blog post about miscarriage statistics if you want to know more: www.google.co.uk/amp/s/expectingscience.com/2015/08/26/lies-damned-lies-and-miscarriage-statistics/amp/

Wishing you all the best as you recover and lots of luck for next time. X

Yep, me!
Two mmc's, both discovered at 12 week scan. Got pregnant again very quickly after second loss and spent whole pregnancy worried.
Went on to have three gorgeous children with no other losses. I read something very reassuring during one of my lengthy Google sessions looking for reassurance- two consecutive miscarriages is still much more likely to be unlucky than a sign of something wrong.
All the best, and a happy and healthy 9 months to you

Thank you all for sharing your stories. Sorry for all of your losses. It's helpful to learn that it's so common but also really sad to learn that so many people have to go through this.

@RoseAndGeranium thanks for the link, I've had a read through it and it's nice to see the statistics from a more realistic approach. The ones I have Google's previously make you feel like you're in this tiny group of people but actually when you see the real statistics. It's a lot more common that you'd expect.

Just can't wait for my period to arrive now and get trying again. I know everyone is different and some like to wait a while before trying again. Personally I find that wait unbearable and would like to keep going forward as it seems to ease the pain ever so slightly. Fingers crossed I can join the 3rd time lucky club (although not a club anyone would want to be part of).

Hi @nacarlos89 your story is very similar to mine, we are even the same age! I had a mmc last year, had medical management for that then my second mc was really strange, I think it counts as a chemical but other than the lightest spotting at week 4 I had no more bleeding, found out at the 12 week scan and still didn’t bleed for a further month, was really awful. I’m in the TWW now and praying this is the one. Completely relate to your feelings, I’m having a good week or so at the moment but there have been some really dark days and probably more to come. It’s such an awful thing to go through

@MrsF111 I'm so sorry to hear you're also going through this. It's such an awful feeling isn't it. I feel like I'm ok with it but it's always there at the back of my mind.

I have finally started my period yesterday so hopefully can start trying again now. Keeping everything crossed! Let me know how you get on. I think it would be nice to keep in touch with someone who is going through the same ❤️

@ncarlos89 have you had any success in falling pregnant? I’m in the same boat, like our stories are identical. I just wanted to see if you had any luck? @nacarlos89

@awarren hi, it's nacarlos89 but I deleted my last account so now I have changed my name. My hcg didn't get back to zero until mid august as it was very slow in falling. We have been trying the last 2 months but no success yet. I have noticed that my periods have been a bit all over the place so not sure if that has anything to do with it.

I have also been in contact with University Hospital of Coventry and Warwickshire about nk cells testing. I'm going to be having a biopsy this month and next to check my nk cells so we won't be trying until mid December now. It actually feels quite refreshing to have a break from TTC. I didn't expect to feel this way but I do. But at the same time I can't wait to start trying again.

I decided to do it because I'm fed up of feeing like the NHS just don't care. I had a video appointment with the consultant there last Friday and he was brilliant. So knowledgeable and has filled me with confidence. Just hoping that if the tests show high nk cells, I can sort it or if they're normal, then it is just a bit of bad luck.

I know that many women have 2 miscarriages and that's why the NHS has the rule of 3 but I also think whoever came up with that rule has obviously never been through it them self. The mental impacts of 2 miscarriages is severe and it's left me a very lonely, miserable and anxious person.

I hope you're holding up well! ❤️

So sorry to hear of the losses but i’m so glad I found this thread to know I am not alone. I’m in a similar situation but unfortunately I am 36 years old and super stressed about my age and everything else that goes with having a miscarriage. It would be great to hear how you got on @chasingtherainbow1 @awarren @nacarlos89 Hope all went well for everyone x

@LAURAPAX sorry to hear about your losses. I had another miscarriage in January this year and decided to go for private testing because the nhs waiting list was too long. They didn't find anything at the testing. I ready the book It Starts with an Egg and began taking all the supplements in that, I cut out gluten and started taking progesterone prescribed by the private doctor in July. I fell pregnant first time using progesterone from 3dpo and am currently almost 14 weeks. Not out of the woods yet but this is the furthest we have got by miles!

If I were you, I wouldn't try again without trying something different such as vitamins or progesterone. You might be able to convince your GP but if not I'd say it's worth going private just to get the prescription in case that is the issue. My private doctor told me that most very early losses are due to low progesterone.

Wishing you all the luck!

Hi @LAURAPAX I felt the same way after my two mc, I was worried about my age (I’m 32).
I asked for a referral to see a fertility specialist, I did not want to go through another mc if there was a reason for them.
I had all the usual blood tests, an ultrasound where they fill your uterus up with saline to check for any abnormalities (I forget the formal name of this), and I ended up having to go for a hysteroscopy as I had retained products from my second miscarriage and D&C, so they did a Laparoscopy to check for Endo as well.
I had a tiny amount of endo, but otherwise everything was fine except my AMH was low ie fewer eggs (this is due to my age).
my fertility specialist advised using CoQ10 300mg twice daily to help with egg quality, I also started taking a better prenatal than Elevit, added in Vitamin D 3000IU (I had low vitamin D and this can also affect AMH), and added in NAC. This is all suggested in It Starts With The Egg which I followed.
my fertility specialist gave me six months before we discussed IVF and at month 4 I fell pregnant and am happily almost 15 weeks now. I started progesterone after the positive test also and continued taking until I was 12 weeks.

I know how scary and overwhelming it is after two, and the infertility thoughts and fear that starts crowding in. I would honestly suggest seeing a fertility specialist or such to discuss testing and check your AMH as this is an indicator of egg numbers. Having a plan with my specialist really helped keep me calm and find a path through it all. Even now I’m 15 weeks I’m still fearful of the worst happening and expecting bad news at every appointment.

Yes age is a big factor but 36 isn’t old and you have options. I wish you all the best and I truly hope good news comes soon for you. If you ever want to talk in further detail I’m more than happy to chat. Xx

I've lost 2.

Terrified by desperate to be pregnant and these posts give me hope thank you.

*but

@chasingtherainbow1 so great to hear you are doing well! thank you for your advice, i have ordered the book 'It Starts With an Egg' so will take advice here too. In terms of vitamins I am already taking pregnacare. I would say generally I am pretty healthy but willing to do whatever I can to give myself the best chance. I've stopped drinking alcohol, only 1 or 2 cups of white tea a day. I totally agree with you and am looking into fertility expert support, i just dont really know where to start. it is all so overwhelming and it has only been a week since my miscarriage so I'm feeling sad but I definitely need to have a plan to feel proactive and like I am trying to do something to sort it out. I know it sounds so naive but literally none of my friends have experienced a miscarriage so it just never even occured to me anything like this could / would happen. Now my age is genuinely stressing me out, like why have i left it until now!!! I am feeling desperate but just need to get pregnant again, I hope that is not a problem and happens quickly, i fell the 2nd time trying for our first pregnancy which i am hoping and taking some comfort in but there was no expectation or trauma before that so all of this is so new to me. Let me know how you get on and wishing you all the best xx

@potogold so sorry for your losses, stay strong. keep going. xx

@awarren meant to tag you in the above post. thank you for sharing it really does help to know i am not alone. XX

@LAURAPAX the book will really help you vitamin wise and it explains everything really simply! My only bit of advice is don't give up. Even if things go wrong with this pregnancy I will keep going until I cant. Many women have children in their late 30's and there's every chance that you will too. Keep me updated too, it will happen one day ❤️