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lol2015 · 08/07/2021 18:20

Hey everyone
Just wondered if you could check my pics please :)
Hubby and I think we can see something but worried it's all in my head.
6 years of trying to praying for this!
Xx

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PurplePansy05 · 09/07/2021 14:17

If that's the case and you've been trying for so long then you absolutely need a specialist referral. They'll likely introduce management for you, for example special diet and metformin and failing that, IVF. If your husband has other children you might not be eligible on the NHS, but after such length of TTC it would really be worth having a go privately if the meds don't help with regulating your cycles?

RightYesButNo · 09/07/2021 14:23

Doctors won't refer me to anything because I don't fall into their categories

Yes I was diagnosed with pcos in 2015

What the hell are they playing at? PCOS is one of the largest causes of infertility; what other category could you possibly need to fit in? You should not be having to order Clomid on your own. Doctors should be guiding you through this. It’s completely ridiculous, as lack of ovulation (or lack of consistent or “quality” ovulation) is a huge hallmark of PCOS and something many sufferers struggle with the most when it comes to pregnancy difficulty. You need a referral from your GP to maybe a specialist obstetrician, and hopefully they will be a much bigger help.

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lol2015 · 09/07/2021 14:28

I'm going to look at going privately

I've always struggled with my weight which is why I don't fit into their categories I think.

I saw a doctor last week that just told me to stop eating and if we were in the war I wouldn't be fat! Safe to say he destroyed a little part of me that day.

Just don't know where to go anymore.
They just tell me to take metformin which doesn't do anything for me.

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PurplePansy05 · 09/07/2021 20:03

That's appalling he spoke to you this way.

But the harsh truth is you need to lose weight. Excess weight in itself causes huge hormonal fluctuations and in combination with PCOS (I know to some extent they might be linked too) it really is doing you no favours. I know it might be harder for you to lose. I had friends who had to go on a very strict diet for a year or so, together with metformin and then they saw the results TTC wise very quickly. You need a referral to a good dietician as well as an obstetrician specialising in PCOS and quick.

You really don't want to be worrying about weight in pregnancy, it does lead to increased risk of all sorts of issues, miscarriage, gestational diabetes, cholestasis, pre-eclampsia...the list is really long. I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, I'm saying this as someone who wishes I shed a stone before my own pregnancy (currently at 35+1) because maybe that would have stopped gestational diabetes from developing...I don't know, but it's not fun. After such a long wait you don't want to worry about you and your baby's health. I waited half as long as you after 3 miscarriages and it's been hell, so I do have a lot of sympathy OP Flowers

RoseAndGeranium · 09/07/2021 21:40

I’m so sorry, OP, it sounds like you’ve had an incredibly tough time. That doctor sounds useless. It may be that losing weight would help you, and fair enough to discuss that constructively and supportively as part of a treatment plan, but spouting nonsense about the war...! He or she is in sore need of some targeted retraining, to say the least.
I agree with PP who have advised you to push for an appointment with a specialist and if you can afford private care it sounds like that would be a good move. I really hope you get the tailored and sympathetic care you need soon. Xxx

IsabelHerna · 13/07/2021 14:49

That's horrible he spoke to you in this manner. But you know what's horrible? That he is a doctor and despite that he still didn't know any better, and behaved in this way.

OP, please change clinics, doctors and everything. Next time you go to a doctor's visit, please remember that you have to choose them like you would a partner/friend. Chemistry and trust are important.

I'm so so sorry that you've had to put up with all these things!

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lol2015 · 13/07/2021 15:55

@IsabelHerna

That's horrible he spoke to you in this manner. But you know what's horrible? That he is a doctor and despite that he still didn't know any better, and behaved in this way.

OP, please change clinics, doctors and everything. Next time you go to a doctor's visit, please remember that you have to choose them like you would a partner/friend. Chemistry and trust are important.

I'm so so sorry that you've had to put up with all these things!

Hello

Thank you

Unfortunately where I live there is only one doctors surgery in our town and we aren't able to go to another as they do it by postcode search :(

I have requested to be taken off of his list and not be seen by him again.

My tests have stayed faint for the past week with only getting slightly darker so I have a blood test booked for 2 weeks time to confirm if my hcg is increasing xx

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