So tired of TTC

[ShortnIcy]

Hi all! Who is here with me? Sick and tired of OPKs, temping, month after month of disappointment. I'm coming up to ovulation time and I just feel so defeated already. I can't help but feel like why am I even tracking anything? I've been tracking this whole time. I got pregnant the 2nd month we tried and that ended in a miscarriage. I've been trying for 3 months since then with nothing. I realize I haven't been trying that long, but I did have a year of dealing with medical clearance to even try, so in my mind, it's been a year and a half process.

But yeah. I worry our pregnancy was my one chance and I lost it and now I'll never get pregnant again. This is probably just anxiety brain but TTC is messing with my head. Who else is sick of all of this??

I hear you. I got pregnant on the fourth month and that was ectopic. I absolutely loved being pregnant, it was such a magical time and now I’m worried that that experience, which ended miserably, will be my only chance.

I am surrounded by new babies at the moment and it is torturous. I am trying not to obsess over TTCing again but I like to be in control, I like information and the feeling that I am doing something. I think really, I am just impatient.

I am not surprised that you feel sick of it after a year and a half of waiting. Of course you do.

With you 100% OP! In a similar spot myself and totally fed up. Despite all the tracking, managed to wake at a different (earlier) time every day for the past week so no idea where I'm at with my temps.

Would you think of binning the OPKs and just trying every other day after your period for a month or two? I found OPKs too stressful/expensive on top of all the other tracking.

Sending you motivational , you'll get there!

Drop the stress, it won't be helping. I realise that's easier said than done. But at the stage you're at you need to put all the tracking down and use the old fashioned way of counting. We were trying for 6 months and got to the point you're at so we stopped 'trying' and fell pregnant straight away.
(I realise this is not the case for many)

I think I'm just going to do the OPKs until I run out. It's almost silly I'm doing them at all because I've been super regular. Average 27/28 day cycle, ovulate on day 14. I pretty much could do it without peeing in a cup. But I might as well finish them rather than wasting them.

I too am surrounded by babies and pregnant women. It's like torture. I try really hard not to think about it most of the day, but come pee in a cup time or my drive to or from work my brain just becomes consumed. I'm really just feeling depressed about the whole thing.

I understand where you're coming from, but I winced at the time frame. I've been TTC for almost 3 years now. It has decimated my sex life and I miss the young, ignorant woman I used to be who only had sex when she wanted to.

I would suggest you step away from the tracking and just have lots of sex in the 2 weeks following your period. If you're not pregnant after 6 months then try opks etc again.

I'm so sorry your journey is taking so long. I recognize it hasn't been that long for me. I just worry because I will be 34 in a few months and have a clotting disorder which already puts me in a high risk category. One of my half sisters was never able to conceive so I worry it's a familial problem. I hope not.

I hope you get your BFP soon!

I absolutely hear you. I got pregnant at 6 months of trying and misscarried at 12 weeks. My cycles are ridiculously long and awful. Now been trying for another 6months (so 15mo total). I keep catching myself thinking "maybe that was your one shot". Everyone around us is having babies (often now baby 2) and it hurts a whole lot.

Butttt I know that we probably will conceive again, that it can take a lot longer than people advertise, and i can hope that in future it will work out for us.

ShortnIcy

Ah I'm sorry to hear that, that does change things. If it's potentially hereditary I would try to push for genetic counseling at the very least.

Hi everyone, I'm so tired of it too. After about 15 months of trying with no luck, I got a positive test last month but it turned out to be a chemical. I only had a few days of thinking I was pregnant but it felt terrible having it taken away and I haven't felt myself since. I read that you are more fertile after a chemical and many people conceive again on the next cycle so I was pinning my hopes on that... But my period has just arrived again.

Like @TheBeesKnee suggested I have tried to ease off on tracking things recently, as I am lucky to have regular cycles so I know roughly when I will ovulate anyway, the opks and temping were just causing me more stress I think... Even without doing those I still can't stop obsessing every month about where I am in my cycle, what symptoms I might be having, etc.

Sending you all ❤️ and fingers crossed for BFPs and healthy happy babies all round!

I’m with ya!

Fed up with the tracking and just not having as much fun with it all now. Feels more like a chore but I can’t seem to relax and hope for the best because I don’t like to think I could be missed my window.

I had an ectopic in March had recover from surgery and right Fallopian tube removed.

Felt better so started trying again in May. To my surprise got a BFP. Was over the moon. Lost the baby at 6 weeks

Now back to trying again AGAIN. It’s just all so much.