TTC after miscarriage at 18 weeks

[AmIamum10]

I had a D&C done at 18 weeks on May 5th to terminate my pregnancy because my cervix gave up.

I had a weird AF earlier this month. It would only flow immediately after I wake up and nothing for the rest of the day. Was done after two mornings.

My ovulation tracker showed a flashing smiley this morning. I am so tempted to go for it. I also got my second jab of Pfizer on June 12th. Too many variables. Should I remain patient and give it an other month or get DH on board tonight? This is a tough question to answer. But, please let me know what you feel.

I am really sorry for your loss. I recently lost a pregnancy in second term as well (23 weeks along). I waited 4 months to start TTC again, but would ideally have waited 2-3. I delayed to receive test outcomes on the cause so we could prevent it in the future (but it seems you already know the cause). I then waited until I had my second vaccination (AZ), as I have a people-facing job and did not want to have only half-Covid protection. I don't know the situation with Pfizer. I know they vaccinate pregnant women after 12 weeks, but don't think they do before 12 weeks.

It is really up to you. I really get the need to be pregnant again, as it has been very much on my mind as well. There is research suggesting you are more fertile in the 6 months, and especially the first 3 months after a loss. Considering how recent your TFMR was, perhaps give it one more cycle for your body to properly reset, and to have a normal period?

Thank you. I am very sorry for your loss as well. The depression post loss in unfathomable. I hope you are feeling better. You're right. May be I should wait one more cycle. Like you said, I cannot wait to get pregnant again to get out of this depressing state on mind. Thank you for responding. Good luck to you

Thank you, it wasn't a club I was keen to become a member of. I thought, as you probably did, that I was already 'safe', and it was now a question of buying baby stuff and thinking up names. And then everything went to shit.

I feel exactly the same way about TTC again. There are some nice groups on the conception boards for people TTC after MC (and I think there is one specifically for TFMR on the antenatal results board, but am not a 100% sure). I also really like the ANC charity, the Antenatal Results and Choices charity, who have a wonderful helpline. I read on their website that they also run a specific (closed) forum for people TTC after TFMR.

I absolutely believed my pregnancy was safe post 13 weeks as well. We even bought a house. Started buying baby stuff before things turned south. Thanks for your suggestions. I'll look up those.

I'm on therapy thru my primary care physician here in the states. Grief counselling and so on. And my husband is trying out a variety of his own therapies (Meditation, Yoga and his endless lectures) on me. Some of those actually work. Others annoy the crap out of me. But I have to keep him to get pregnant again, lol

Good luck to you.

In your position, I would go for it OP.

I am So sorry for your loss @amlamum10. And yours @davidrosejumper.

I lost my little boy at 21+4 (TFMR) and am now waiting to miscarry again at 8 weeks as it seems I'm having a MMC. I had a chemical pregnancy in January.

There is a TFMR thread in antenatal tests, you would be most welcome.

@SemiFeralDalek, I am so sorry you are going through another loss. That is just horrendous. I hope you have a loving partner, family and friends around you.

@AmIamum10, I had the same thing. I had made some big life decisions, moved city, etc. I am in therapy as well, which does help. What is really helping me strangely is getting into a new hobby, as I mostly just need something to take my mind of things. I have been doing quite physical stuff, crafting, handiwork, that kind of thing.