TTC and my best friends wedding

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My partner and I are desperate to start TTC for our first baby but it’s my best friends wedding soon and I’m her maid of honour.

If I was lucky and got pregnant straight away, I’d be concerned about the chance of being less than 3 months pregnant at the wedding and having to dodge alcohol without telling people. I’d happily tell my best friend, she’d be over the moon for me but I wouldn’t want anyone else to know. Whilst I don’t drink much anyway, my other friends are big drinkers and would immediately assume I’m pregnant if I turned down a celebratory drink at a wedding.

I can’t decide whether to hold off for another couple of months - as it’s not long in the grand scheme of things - or just go for it.

Just looking for some reassurance and advice.

Not going to lie - I do find it stressful hiding pregnancy with no drinking but best tip I had was to just accept a drink rather than make up excuses as it's much more obvious (I never actually drunk it but swapped with partner, tipped some away slyly etc)
To be honest I've found there usually always an event or something you'll have on during those first three months whenever you plan it to happen! (which are actually 8 weeks as you'll be about 4 weeks pregnant if you found out straight away).

I'd hold off, not because of drinking/hiding the pregnancy-

But imagine being the maid of honour and sitting through a wedding with morning sickness and fatigue. Up to you, though, but knowing what that sickness is like

I found it easy to hide drinking and I'm
A big social drinker! I also didn't have a single symptom so I would of been fine in your situation but it's all individual. For the sake of a few months our just wait if I were you.

As maid of honour chances are you’ll be so busy with other duties you won’t get much of a chance to have a drink anyway. If you were lucky and fell pregnant quickly and friends were suspicious just shoot it down quickly, don’t crumble as it’s your friends special day. Just say something like ‘you know me with the drink, I didn’t want to run the risk of getting drunk and ruining her day’ or ‘god, I didn’t realise as maid of honour everyone bought me drinks so I’ve never be on every table’ or as others have said just take the drinks and walk away with it saying ‘I really need to do bridesmaid duties now’

I’ve always enjoyed a drink but when I’ve been maid of honour I’ve genuinely not drank a lot and I wasn’t pregnant!

You're over-thinking it. If you are ready to TTC then go for it.

If you are pregnant at the wedding, you'll manage.

It's impossible to know in advance how long it will take. If you're ready go for it.

I wouldn't worry about the drinking. Just accept the Prosecco, do a cheers with it, have the smallest sip possible/pretend, then put it down and carry on being 'busy' with MOH duties. No one will notice or if they do, hopefully they are adult enough to not mention it.

Unfortunately no way of knowing how you are going to feel morning sickness wise. I probably would have waited because I wasn't in a rush to get pregnant but if time wasn't on my side I definitely would TTC and worry about the wedding later.

We went to a wedding in Lithuania and couldn't drink as needed to drive back to the airport very early. Hubby and I had water all night pretending it was vodka! No one knew and we had a great time. I wouldn't think anyone would notice if you accept the drinks then put them down somewhere.