AIBU for wanting some sensitivity?

[VC1991]

So after 18 months of ttc with one miscarriage (suspected ectopic) I’m at my wits end with it all. I’m so so fed up of the baby making sex and people telling me to stop thinking about it and it will happen. To make it worse my younger sister is due to have her first baby in September, one week after my baby was due and my parents are falling over themselves to be there for her, gushing to everyone they meet about their first grandchild being on the way. AIBU that I just want them there for me whilst I’m going through the stress of not being able to conceive? It’s like they are fed up of hearing about it now and just get annoyed at me when I get upset or jealous. Then when I am there for my sister and try and join in the baby discussions everyone thinks I’m now fine so they talk about it ALL THE TIME until I cry and breakdown and the cycle starts all over again. It sounds awful but I just wish I had more friends in the same boat as me. Everyone I know is getting pregnant on their first or second month of trying and they don’t know the pain couples go through when struggling to conceive! Just wanted a bit of a moan really and to see if there is anyone else out there feeling the same?

V sorry you’re going through this.

Immediate family are sometimes not best placed to support. I found v good support online and, when things were really difficult, was lucky enough to be able to get some private counselling.

Thanks @Dozer for your advice! Think I may have to go down the counselling route. It’s all getting very overwhelming! Never thought trying for a baby would be this emotionally exhausting!

It is hard op we didn't try for years and years but it took us 9 months to conceive our first who we lost at 24 weeks whilst seemingly everyone including my younger sister fell first month. Just to reassure you that we did conceive again naturally eventually and have twins who are now 6.I found it helped to go our for walks and hobbies that weren't with my pregnant friends etc to give me some space and in retrospect my family were just super excited about my niece was no reflection on me but it was tough at the time.

Your feelings are natural and it sounds really tough. Unfortunately there will be a lot more baby talk in the following months with your sister due in Sept. Maybe take a step back from some of it if it’s very difficult for you. I am sure you will go on to make your peace with it but it’s understandable that it’s very raw for you atm. I also find couples who brag about how quickly they conceived very annoying btw. They should read the room.