Poas thread anyone?

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I have been very stupid. Dtd a few days before I was due on. Thought it was fine. A few weeks later, here I am with that familiar, all day, low level sickness and still no period. DH and I already have 3DC. Anyway I have a test in the post, coming today. Argh.

I'm in the same boat. I was a week late for AF and testing neg (even bloods were neg), so we very stupidly got drunk on the 12th and didn't have a condom. I think I've had a couple of faint positives, but it is way too early for a test so they were probably indents.
Weird symptoms though.
Super vivid dreams, one horrid nightmare. DP dreamed I was pregnant and due March 12, which is close to what my due date would be. I dreamed last night I had two positive tests. Had v mild headaches and one on the verge of a migraine.
Today I've felt very tired and drained both physically and mentally. This afternoon at work, I got hungry and I didn't eat right away so got very hot, shaky and nauseous about 5 minutes later.

I'll probably be testing everyday until I go in to see my GP on the 2nd to see why I haven't had a period since 30th April and testing negative.

Good luck, I hope you get the result you are after!

That sounds very frustrating! What tests were you using that you gmthought you got the indentation lines on?

To be honest I'm not sure what result I'm wanting. I wouldn't mind having a 4th but I'm worried about the judgment if I'm completely honest! 3seems average but 4 seems like a big step if you know what I mean.

I've been using FRER.

I dont think 4 is too much, I'm one of 6! I thought about having 4, but I'm more worried about the money side of things, and we're not even planning on having any yet 😂

Did you like being one of 6? Must ahve been fun!

Delivery driver is a few stops away...

Positive. My first reaction is oh shit. Why was I so stupid.

Pregnant from having sex like CD20+?! Shit I didn't think that was possible. You've scared ME now 😂

Congrats? Or not?

Honestly, no, but in saying that my two sisters and I are polar opposites and never got along.

Congrats? On your BFP!!

Neither did I zippity. I know they say you can get pregnant any time of the month but how unlikely is that?! Oh god oh god oh god.

Deep breath. You have choices. How are you feeling?

Terrified. I don't think I can have another baby but I can't go through with an abortion either.

DH says he doesn't have the energy for another. We've only got 3 bedrooms too. I feel so sad but it's my own fault.

No, don't blame yourself! It takes two people to make a baby!
I hope everything works out for you. It must be so scary! Good luck xx

Thank you. I know it takes two but I still feel so annoyed with myself.

I know everyone says 'your body, your choice' but I don't think it's as simple as that. DH has said it's my decision and will support me either way but his choice would be abortion. How can I keep a baby that we don't really have room for, expect him to support it for the next 18+ years when he doesn't really want to?

I totally get how you feel. Same circumstances over here - 3DC, really trying to reconcile with myself that I'll never be pregnant again. But we've been playing fast and loose with contraception thinking it's impossible to fall pregnant on certain days so that's an eye opener.

I would be torn. Just like you. Bedrooms. Needing a bigger car etc.

But, if he says he would support you regardless does anyone ever regret HAVING a baby once they arrive? I don't think so.

Not trying to sway you either way. I just don't think it'll be a disaster. Because you make it work.

I totally wouldn't regret another baby and I know DH wouldn't either but I don't want to spend the whole pregnancy stressed knowing it wasn't what DH really wanted.

The bedroom issue is quite a big deal. In one bedroom we have DD10 and in the other bedroom we have DS8 and DS16months will be joining him soon. If we had another girl, I couldn't expect dd to share with a baby and I would feel so bad for my eldest ds sharing with 2 toddlers.

We have nearly finished saving a house deposit but don't think we could stretch to 4 bedrooms.

I want the baby but that's not enough.

@POASthreadstarter Meh kids share rooms 🤷🏼‍♀️ there are amazing triple sleepers out there. Won't kill them. May encourage them to move out quicker 😂

Just think about how you feel either way. If you're anything but relieved at the thought of a termination then it'll be really hard to do. I think you'll feel guilt either way - so strip it back before you make any tough decisions.

Thanks for talking to me zippity, you've really helped. I wish I could go to sleep and wake up and this has all gone away.

It's got to be tough I can't imagine.

Have you and DH spoken any more?

Yes we had a proper chat last night. He is still the same. He'd prefer to terminate but says its my body and my choice. Its so hard. I don't want to to terminate but I don't want to bring another child into the world that isnt wanted.

Do you have any idea how many weeks you are?
At least then you can calculate a deadline/cut off date you're comfortable with to reach a decision either way.