How do you cope

[Badassbreastfeeder85]

I was 2 days late,I was convinced I was pregnant then I came on.
I can't cope with this anymore, I feel so failed by my body,I hate it

If it helps, I think it's pretty common to feel so let down by your body. Its not the same but I'm waiting for my cycles to sort themselves out after stopping breastfeeding so am definitely also experiencing the wtf body rollercoaster.

Chin up, if the 85 in your name is your year of birth you've got time. I've conceived at 35, 37 and 39 so it is possible x

And I have friends who had babies at 40, 41 and 42. X

Oh, I understand completely dh and I have been trying for almost 6 months and when you start you tend to look for every sign and spot them. And then your period starts and it's just so heartbreaking 😔

It will happen, it sounds so cliché but if you stop putting pressure on yourself, it'll happen faster, I hated people saying it to me when we were trying to conceive ds, but when you stop examining yourself, it really does help.

We've been having unprocted sex for 2.5 years,obviously my age is a factor but I also have only one ovary and one fallopian tube,I already have a 9 year old so won't get ivf on NHS and can't go private on a teaching assistants wage, to add insult to injury I have bad period pains

Sorry you are struggling. A close friend also lost a tube and was told she would never have children. After multiple failed IVF's, she conceived naturally. 3mths after her sons birth, found out she was pregnant with twins!!!! She had 3 under 18mths!

Have you had any tests for infertility? Is your current partner the same as your childs father? Has your current partner been tested? I recommend 'It starts with an egg'. I got a cheap copy off ebay.

You do need to look at the positive also of your current life. It helps you get through. I've TTC 11yrs. 3 losses, 2 rounds of IVF and no cause for sub-fertility found. No live children. Best of luck x

I also know someone who had her daughter then two ectopics and was told you've basically got no chance as you only got less than half of one tube left. She then conceived her son and her consultant told her they didn't know how it happened so don't give up hope. Or at the very least don't forget to see the miracle you have in front of your eyes, don't loose your son's childhood in your own sadness.

I’ve just turned 42 and still hoping another miracle will happen. We have a 4 year old daughter (conceived naturally after laparoscopy which saved one of my Fallopian tubes) and would love another one. The doctors now suspect endometriosis has caused a lot of my issues (scar tissue plus a tilted uterus) so have struggled to fall again. Ivf is proving to be a very draining process (6 failed transfers) so I know how you feel, it’s such a frustrating process. I want to enjoy my daughter’s childhood as much as possible but have this constant pressure hanging over me.

Current partner isn't sons father,when I had surgery to remove adhesions I was told my remaining tube is clear and no sign of endo but that's it,so hard trying to get a Dr's appointment, my son would really like a sibling too which doesn't help