I'm scared I will never be pregnant again

[Imstruggling2021]

I had my first baby last year in August. Took us only a month to conceive him.

We started ttc our second at the beginning of this year and fell pregnant in cycle 2. Miscarried at 4 weeks and 5 days.

I'm now in my 2ww of cycle 6 of ttc. Currently 6dpo and took a test and it was negative.

I'm 34 and I'm scared it will never happen for us again. I so want to give my child a sibling.

I think about this every day and it has a huge impact on me.

I'm thinking about doing fertility tests to rule out anything that could be wrong with us. What tests can we do? Blood tests, hyscosy, sperm analysis? NHS probably won't see us as we already have a child and we've only tried for six months ttc. So we would probably have to go private. :(

All this has such a huge mental impact on my life and it's good to have Mumsnet to have a rant. I know when my period arrives next week I'll be extremely upset and cry. :(

Have you tried using clear blue digital ovulation tests? Pricey but very good at making sure youre hitting peak fertility window. X

@Mrsmujic

I'm using them and I'm also taking all the prenatal vitamins and it's fucking expensive :(((

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, but - it's totally normal to take several months to conceive. You were lucky to catch first time with your first, it took 8 months for me (I was 34 then).

Try not to stress over it, as that will make it worse. We haven't started trying for our second yet - our first is about the same age as yours - but I'm not expecting it to happen quickly. My brother and SIL caught first month with their first and then their second took seven months to conceive - all totally normal

It’s completely normal to take around 12 months to conceive so think of it this way - you’re likely to be pregnant within the next 6 months! And taking a test a 6dpo is super early - not likely to pick anything up then anyway? Wait a few days and try another? Have hope and try to stay positive xx

This is a very normal Time frame. My first was very unplanned, my second took 6months of trying with all the vitamins under the sun and ovulation testing. It happened and I have two children.

I do understand the fear of not being able to conceive again though. I had a ruptured ectopic last year and lost a tube. I have a lot of fear now that a 3rd won’t happen for us, and we aren’t even currently trying. It’s all consuming however

I’m in a similar position, also in the 2ww of my 6th cycle to conceive a second child. I’m 8dpo and resisting taking a test for a couple of days.
It’s hard not to worry though, even if logically you know you’re within “normal” time frames - I also fell pregnant first cycle when TTC DD, then I had a miscarriage and then conceived DD the first cycle after that.

@Mummyme87 just wanted to say I’ve had a ruptured ectopic and tube removed as well and fell pregnant very quickly afterwards 🥰 quicker than when I had two tubes! So try not to stress too much about it. You don’t need both tubes as they’re able to move and swing by the ovary with no tube to pick up the released egg xx

@Farfaraway1 thank you. I know, I read a lot of success stories and know the theory but just obviously have massive worries. Haven’t even started TTC for no3

Firstly, very sorry for your loss .

Secondly, please, please try to relax a little. You are under 35 and that means that it is very normal to take up to 12 months to conceive. I think it is not necessary at this point to have fertility tests as you already have a child (so would unlikely be given nhs support anyway) and the 12 month clock starts again after any loss, so they'd see you as being on month 4, not 6.

You were incredibly lucky to conceive first time before and I think this has given you a false hope that it always happens so quickly. I do understand your feelings. I took 8 months to conceive, then I had a missed miscarriage and then took yet another 8 months to conceive. I actually paid for private fertility tests and the consultant told me I was wasting money because I'd shown I could fall pregnant naturally and was in the normal time scale of up to 12 months. My results showed that dh and I both have excellent fertility and it still took us 8 cycles twice.

You are overwhelmingly likely to be pregnant again by Christmas Day as statistics go. The stress you are causing yourself will have an impact on conception however