Do you tell your partner when you're....

[BBIvy]

Hello (TTC #2)

My partner says he does not want to know when I'm in my fertile window as, well, he just thinks it strange!! I want him to know so we can ensure it happens of course! But totally understand why he doesn't.

Do you tell your partners? Do they want to know, or have even they suggested it? I understand if your partner works away etc just interested to know!

@BBIvy

Hey!
I don't tell my OH when I'm ovulating as it seems to make him feel under pressure!🙈🤣

I tell my DH everything about that, down to the ovulation spotting and best time for DTD :) He does find doing the SMEP quite arduous so we tried cutting it down to three time during fertile window this month, only Cycle 2 ttc #1 so early days.

The first time I used OPKs I told the OH when I was ovulating but since then I keep it to myself, as I don't want him to feel under pressure! x

I absolutely did. Because we both Wanted a baby and it’s a team effort.

Does he want a baby? Or is he just going with the flow?

I find it rather strange that he would think it was ‘strange’ for you to tell him? You are trying for a baby - working out your fertile window is a pretty essential part of it. Was he the same when TTC #1?

I tell mine when I think we should start trying that cycle but don't tell him when I'm ovulating before it happens because that does seem to put pressure on him. I tell him all the details afterwards 😂

Thabks for your thoughts and opinions! Yes baby #2 is very much wanted by him and myself. I didn't track anything with my first as it happened almost instantly (this time taking so much longer!!)

I think maybe he thinks it's strange as he just wants it to happen when it does, he's very laid back in regards to these kind of matters, unlike me who wants it all instantly!! We both have high sex drives anyway so I suppose that's helpful, but need to do it at the right time!!

Interesting seeing more don't tell their OH but on the other hand it's a joint effort if you both want a baby I suppose.

Yup I do, I don't think it's fair for it to be all on me to plan and make sure we BD otherwise.

Only vaguely, he wouldn't have turned sex down anyway but it would feel too much pressure on us both

My husband isn't bothered i think he likes to know so he knows not to have a wank tbh 😂😂😂