Losing hope after a year and half of trying

[Pinksworthy90]

Hi ladies,

Just looking for a bit of hope really. Been trying over a year and a half now, with a MMC in May last year. Periods are regular, both me and DP take all vitamins diligently, use digital opks to track ovulation and time the DTD when I get the peak, my blood works have come back normal with report suggesting I'm ovulating. DP's SA was excellent in reports in 2019. He is going to give another test for SA this week as it's been long since 2019. Until that is done, NHS is not going to do any further investigations for us. Things are moving very slow with GP and I will be booked in for one or the other tests only after I call them every other day. I'm 31 and he is 35. I tried acupuncture for 6 months spending a fortune, but it didn't help. I don't know what else I can do to make it happen.

I have always dreamed of having three children but looking at how I'm struggling to have just one makes me think if I'm even allowed to dream anything closer to reality. Its just all overwhelming as I got my period this morning, God knows what cycle as I have lost the count now.

Please tell me your success stories if you think can help me and others in the same position as me.

Hi @Pinksworthy90, so sorry you're not having any success yet. I can just tell you the story of one of my best friends, she and her partner tried for exactly two years, not even the faintest trace of a BFP - and then, just like that, she was pregnant and is now in week 17. Fingers crossed for you!

I know exactly how you feel @pinksworthy90. Very similar 18 months, fertility referral in Jan but 6-9 month waiting list where I live.
No advice really, just acknowledgement that you're not alone.
My heart breaks more and more each month. I've had friends who have had IVF and various struggles so should have been more prepared and realistic but never in a million years thought I'd be on month 18 of no contraception without a sniff of a positive.
It's tough, but I know of lots of positive success stories which I try to remind myself of when not feeling utterly crap and miserable. Hope you get some answers from tests soon.

I was two years, awaiting an appt at the infertility clinic when I got my first BFP. Sadly ended with an early MC but got another bfp 5 months later and currently have my baby lying in his crib next to me…
I had resigned myself to the fact I wouldn’t conceive naturally and would need assistance, but I was wrong. Hopefully everything works out for you xx

I'm with you as well. 18 months. No hint of a Bfp at all though . In need of positive stories. It's so tough x

It took us ages to get pregnant with miscarriages and IVF along the way. After 4 years of ttc my first was born, she was
A result of IVF. Tried IVF again (3 x) with no luck for number 2, only to fall pregnant one drunken Christmas, not a vitamin or ovulation test in sight.

Sometimes it just works. I'm not saying relax and it will happen because it might not. But from all the research I did whilst fighting away tears after yet another period arrived I have learned that most people who have age on their side do get their in the end. Plus you have been pregnant before which is a good sign.

Keep trying, keep investigating (go private if you can, especially for tests etc) and get a thyroid test to rule out something simple. You don't need ovulation tests, just dtd every other day from day 10ish to day 18isj. And try not to forget all the good things you have going on in your life. Good luck!! You will get there!

Hey! I am sorry for what you're going through! A friend of mine had a beautiful baby girl after 6 pregnancies (miscariages, etc) and 8 years of trying. She now has a little bundle of joy that honestly is the cutest thing I've ever seen!
Do not give up hope! You are still young, I'm trying to stay positive even at my age, 38.
Have you tried changing GPs, or getting a second opinion?

Sending you hugs and wishes!

Hi, there is hope! 5yrs ttc, three miscarriages, but now have a healthy baby. We had a few investigations and turned out I had lupus anticoagulant and a uterine septum. The latter was missed on quite a few scans, but had it removed and was pregnant within a few months after and this one stuck! Good luck, it’s worth getting fully checked out. I would say that 1.5yrs at your age is relatively common, might be worth giving a few month with the ovulation tracking and trying to relax for a bit (easier said than done). We stopped tracking as were going to get Christmas out the way and start trying properly in the new year, and that’s when I fell pregnant.

Aspirin was the game changer for me. Five long years of TTC, IVF and recurrent miscarriages. Then natural pregnancies at 36 and 40 .

Of course, please do your own research and decide but I would say that it is worth trying 75mg daily.

I am trying for over a year now with no success. Thank you ladies for all the positive stories, really needed them!

It took us five years of trying and were told it wasn't going to happen
Am now 16 weeks pregnant with my little miracle

I know, its not easy and it's so hard when you're in the depths of it but I'd think it's a good sign tests have come back all good x

Thank you everyone for your kind words and positive stories. Really puts me in a better mood. We dropped in the semen sample yesterday to the facility which is half an hour from here, but with traffic it went upto 45 mins and the semen had become liquid-ey by the time we dropped it. Sorry tmi, worried if that will affect the results now and if we will be asked for a repeat test.

@IsabelHerna : I will start pressurising the GP to start parallel investigations on me like the AMH, ultrasounds etc while we wait for DP's SA reports. Hope that will kick start things further. If I get no help from this GP, I will seriously consider changing it. Hugs and wishes to you too. The journey is tough, but I'm hopeful we will reach there someday.

@Greytminds I have heard of people taking aspirin, especially when they have experienced multiple MC's, but I haven't had a single BFP after my MC last year. I will research more on this. Thank you !

@Talkwhilstyouwalk : Wow, your story inspires me. You're right, I'm trying to focus on current positive aspects of life, which has kept me going. The thyroid results have come back normal as part of the blood tests done by GP. But as you say, it just works some month and doesn't work rest of the time, even if there are no underlying issues.

May we get some magic baby dust for all of us trying !!

Aspirin helped me get pregnant too @Pinksworthy90. I started taking 75mg every day, not just post miscarriage.

@Greytminds,
Thanks, I have decided to give aspirin a try this cycle after reading a bit into it. Did you take it everyday or from the day of ovulation? Also, any particular brand that is good ?

I'm also considering trying Soy Isoflavones from the next cycle as they will be delivered late. But worried that they shouldn't mess up my cycle. You can see I'm at that stage where I'm willing to try anything and everything.