First month ttc thoughts

[glasspaw]

Hi everyone. I don’t really know why I’m posting this but I wanted to share how I’ve been feeling in case anyone can relate.

First month TTC. We’ve been talking about this for a while now but it never felt like the right time. Eventually we decided the right time wasn’t ever going to arrive and now here we are.

I’m in that limbo phase between ovulation and period due date…and it is killing me. I overthink everything and I can’t believe I never considered how unbelievably frustrating it would be in this two week waiting bit. I was pretty well prepared mentally for it to take a while, but the knowledge that I could be pregnant, and that something so important could be happening in my own body, but that I can’t know for sure for at least another 10 days is a really uncomfortable place for me mentally. It’s not so much that I’m desperate for the test to be positive when I have it (though of course I would be really happy if it did happen this quickly, just shocked!) and more that I’m just desperate to know what is or isn’t happening to me ASAP!

So yeah, that’s where I am. If anyone else is feeling like that then I hope knowing that you’re not the only one is comforting in some way haha!

The thought of going through this every month for an unspecified length of time is giving me a lot of dread. Any tips on how to feel more comfortable during this bit?

@glasspaw hello! I totally relate. This is my first cycle ttc#1 and i am on cycle day 44!!! So my 2ww is now a 3ww! Lol bfn on tests but no sign of af!!

I was letting it drive me crazy, symptom spotting every little thing, i was seriously turning into a monster and found the whole thing overwhelming but ive really took a step back now and try and relax becuase stressing isnt going to help anything! Easier said than done though!! Xx

I’ll be the first to admit that relaxing isn’t something I’m especially good at haha, but I will try for sure. Guess there’s nothing anyone can do to speed up time.

I hope you get a definitive answer soon @CTMcG :)

@glasspaw same, i am the opposite of laid back at the best of times!😂 thank you! Baby dust to you!

I am starting next month! I can imagine feeling similar. I think I'm just going to try to remind myself it could take up to a year statistically (if we are lucky!) and that in the end, we'll hopefully feel we got the right baby for us in the end!

@somersault best of luck! I kind of wish I’d read more about the TWW before trying so that I could prepare myself a bit more for how it feels!

@glasspaw eesh the tww is awful. You'd just rather know either way and carry on with life!

I hope you're successful this month but it can take longer than you think. It took me 8 months, two times (first pregnancy was a mmc) and I drove myself crazy with symptom spotting and watching YouTube videos. Both times I fell pregnant I literally didn't give the tww a second thought. Let yourself indulge this cycle and if not successful then just keep yourself very busy in the next tww. It can quickly get on top of you.