Anyone trying for no3 after a big gap?

[toadstool32]

Or is this totally crazy?! I just can't decide. Heart says yes head says no. I have two dds 11 and 7 so the gap would be huge. I'm 33 dh is 40. I've drawn up list after list of pros and cons and there are so many practical reasons not to but I just can't get it out of my head.

I’m trying for baby no 2 with a 10 year gap (different partner) I don’t think it’s crazy at all, although will be a shock to go back to newborn days of course! My sister is 7 years older than me and we are really close so don’t think it makes a difference.

We are similar ages to you guys too btw, I’m 32 and DP 39. Been trying for over a year though and no luck yet 😔

I have a 6 year age gap between my youngest DS and my DD. So when I gave birth I had an 8 year old, a 6 year old and a newborn (at the start of first lock down too so maternity leave was spent home schooling the older two too!)
My older kids adore the baby and honestly they have never said or done a bad thing about their baby sibling. They help out, they're very protective of her and she adores them.
I won't be having any more babies but that's purely because I feel we are done and another wouldn't add anything.

To add, we lost 3 babies while trying for number 3 which obviously added to the gap.

I did it! I now have a 14 yo, an 11 yo and a 3 yo. It's awesome! The 2 big ones love to play with the little one and it's lovely to have the littlest one to one while the others are at school. Don't worry about the age gap!

It's the idea of a third being an only child. Like by the time they start school, the older two would be 12 and 16 and by the time the youngest is 10 they'd be 18 and 22 off at uni etc. I get that it works for many but I can't see past that

@toadstool32

It's the idea of a third being an only child. Like by the time they start school, the older two would be 12 and 16 and by the time the youngest is 10 they'd be 18 and 22 off at uni etc. I get that it works for many but I can't see past that

Well to be honest I moved out at 21 and have 5 younger brothers and I still made sure I saw them a lot. I understand the age gap worry for sure but as lingers as it's not 22 years like it is with my youngest brother. You'll be fine if it's something you want and can handle

I'm 36 OH 46 (new partner) I have 2 boys, 15 & 11. Been trying for a 3rd for 2years now, fell pregnant after 15months but unfortunately had an early loss. Desperate for a third but I just can't see it happening. My eldest is dying for me to have a baby, he's amazing with little ones!

My children are 50, 48 and 40. They have always been really close and very supportive of each other. From the start the two eldest worshipped their little brother and he them.

All of my children’s partners are welcomed into the fold and the 6 of them meet frequently. My 4 adult grandchildren are brilliant with the 4 young ones. They have all babysat for each other.

Each of my children have had to face the normal issues of relationships and child rearing. They have been able to turn to each other for help and advice. It is a strange dynamic that my two DILs and my SiL say they are much closer to the the in-laws than their own siblings.

All of them have been a great help to us and their grandparents for which I am immensely grateful.

My brothers are 7 and 10 years older and we're really close. We haven't been that much when I was a child but got closer the older we got. I thought it to be cool being the youngest. We didn't play a lot together because we had different interests, but I learned so much from them.

I have twelve years between my two youngest, my older children had 18 mths and 4 years gaps but I have enjoyed my youngest more so because I only have one little one to run around!

My older two were 15 and 18 when I had their little brother. He's 20 now and the 3 of them are really close. Does mean I've now had a child at home for 38 years though!!

My dc are 17, 16, 3 and 1. 22 when I had my first, 38 when I had my last.
I felt the same about #3 feeling like an only child so I had another 😂

12 years between mine.

Mine are 21, 16, 2 and 1, its busy but no regrets at all!

Hmm still unsure 😐 I'm afraid the other two kids lives will be turned upside down which doesn't seem fair. Coming up to my fertile window though so I guess we'll let fate decide