why am i so sad ?

[TtcP]

Why do i now get so sad when i see other people's pregnancy announcements ? someone else just announced there's on facebook and i just had to get up and leave to go to the toilet and cry and i haven't stopped for the last 20 minute - kinda pathetic really but i just wondered if anyone knew why i was so sad over it - surely i should be happy for others and i am but i can't help it anymore /:

Well it's hard to say without knowing your circs. Are you TTC? I found it hard when we couldn't get pregnant that so many people seemed to be doing so effortlessly

@SleepingStandingUp yeah i've been ttc for almost 2 years /: it's getting hard and i have so much guilt around it

Well it's not surprising it upsets you so relax in that, you're normal. Smile , congratulations, then quiet cry in private.

Why do you feel guilty?

@TtcP I totally understand how you feel. I think for those of us who have been TTC for a while it gets harder and harder each announcement. As time goes on I feel it does, in the early days when someone told me they were expecting I'd be happy for them and think oh I'll be pregnant soon, before their due etc, and haven't been 😔 take the time to be sad, it's normal when you want something so bad and it's all around. Sometimes I feel I can't get away from it so come off social media and that helps. I adore kids and all of my friends and family that have, and am always for others but it's hard not to also feel sad and I think we all struggle xxx

I sympathize with you so much. I'm older than most my friends and I've gone through everyone's baby announcement. Then second baby announcement. I've yet to have my own. It sucks. I open my social media and all I see are smiling pregnant women. I wanna just separate from it all.
How you're feeling isn't abnormal. I truly think we all felt this way at one point or another.
Just stay strong and walk away if you need to because your own mental state is very important. This doesn't mean you're not happy for those women, it just means you wish so much to be in their shoes. And one day it will be you.

@SleepingStandingUp that's what i have been doing ): i just feel guilty cause i feel like other people's announcements shouldn't make me sad like i should have no negative emotions towards it if that makes any sense haha x

@HJen22 Yeah i understand - it does feel quite surrounding but then again i literally am - most of my friends are - most of the women i follow on youtube are - someone even announced it on a mobile game that i was playing - feels like it never ends and i'm always crying over it !! i'm sure it'll get better but it is hard and thank you for sharing how you felt too - makes me feel slightly better about it xxx

@VixFromThe6ix Aw hun I know it's so hard but thank you for sharing - just worried one day i'll be that bitter old woman in a corner downing wine and vodka cause i could never get pregnant aha - but one day it'll be okay i hope xx

Are you seeking medical fertility help?

[quote TtcP]@SleepingStandingUp that's what i have been doing ): i just feel guilty cause i feel like other people's announcements shouldn't make me sad like i should have no negative emotions towards it if that makes any sense haha x[/quote]
Honestly your feelings are perfectly normal

Big hugs OP.

In the same boat here. 8 years trying for Dc2.

I have everything crossed that you fall pregnant soon x

@1940s Not yet - been trying to get a scan to see what's wrong but it's taking a very long time x

@SleepingStandingUp thank you x

@BipolarSunset fingers crossed for you too ): xx

As hard as it is, we need to remain positive, put a smile on and know that it will happen ❤️ but allow yourself days to be sad, it's normal when you want something so bad. I have tried so many things to take my mind off it, I find meditation can make me feel positive and I've been reading a book called the magic which is all about gratitude and daily tasks which are really good. I forced myself to do it the day I had a BFN this month, and it helped xxx

Same here 15 years ttc and 5 miscarriages. Every pregnancy announcement tears me apart

[quote TtcP]@1940s Not yet - been trying to get a scan to see what's wrong but it's taking a very long time x[/quote]
Best of luck with it all. I hope you find a faster route. Thinking of you