Conceiving

[Tryingmumlaura]

So I'm just after hitting the milestone I'm 30 years old, I haven't used contraception since the age of 16, I was in a relationship and went to the doctor to see if anything was wrong, doctor did a scan and said I was fine. Anyway since I started puberty I have always had regular periods and a very heavy flow. Two relationships later, I'm with the man I'm going to marry next year and I feel it in my heart truly I want to have a baby truth be told babies but I'd be over the moon just to conceive and have a healthy child, I guess I'm really scared it's nearly 14-15 years of unprotected sex, meetiny partner we have been trying now for two years plus, so all in all that comes 14-15 years. Will I give up accept defeat? I just want to know what mum's and trying to conceive also, thinks, I have so much love to give and it's breaking my heart, when I truly sit back and think why hasn't this happened or does god think I would be better not having a child. I honestly have hit a dark part but I want this so much. Anyway if anyone can help me out there, please please do, thank you.

So sorry you're going through this. The best thing to do would be to contact your dr again and tell them how long you've been actively trying for. They will then do some tests and go from there. Wishing you lots of luck 🤞🏻💕

Are you having any fertility tests/investigations? I’m sorry you are going through this. If you have had unprotected sex for 15 years without a pregnancy then it definitely sounds as though there is a problem but that doesn’t mean it can’t be sorted. Do not give up until you have explored the options xx

If you go to your GP as a couple they will refer you for tests.

I had 3 years unprotected sex with my DH and not so much as a late period! After our tests we found out he had low motility, low quality and varicose veins on his testes! We were told we had less than 3% of conceiving naturally.

We had ivf on the nhs as we met the criteria and on our 2nd round we had our DS. Fast forward 13 months later I found out I was naturally pregnant with DS2!!!

If you want a baby, I really would advise you go to your GP and take it from there.

For relevance I was 25 and DH was 33 when we got fertility checks. 27 and 35 when we started our family.

Sounds like your GP hasn't started any investigations yet? A single scan doesn't show much.

So definitely get the ball rolling asap (bearing in mind the NHS can be very slow, so don't dally). Just because it hasn't worked so far doesn't mean there isn't something straight forward they can do to fix it!

So you tried for 16 years or you didn't take hormonal birth control since 16 years? I don't understand if you are trying since 2 years or longer, sorry :(

No I was on birth control from the age 14 but only for one year I meant all those years I was in two relationships with no contraception and never got pregnant now I'm with the guy I really want kids with I guess because It never happened years ago I went through life saying I couldn't get pregnant the man I'm marrying in the new year I'm basically try trying holding my legs up trying to conceive like every other day. Thanks for your reply

But did you use another form of contraception like withdrawal or something like that? Or really no form of birth control whatsoever?

Hi! I'm 33 and went through the exact same emotions as you. I started to worry at 30 about my fertility and my 'body clock' ticking away.

We started to actively trying after my 30th birthday. 2 years in with no luck. I tried EVERYTHING! Ovulation sticks, tracking my temperature, checking my cm and using pre seed. I started googling and worrying about could be wrong with me. I pretty much self diagnosed myself with everything that could of been why were weren't conceiving.

I spoke to my gp and had some blood tests done in all honesty they were no help to me. I really had to force them to refer me to a fertility clinic.

Once I was referred myself and my partner had all the routine checks done and it came back with 'unexplained infertility' so after all this there was still no clear answer of why.

The next step for us was IVF which came as a massive shock. But my fertility doctor was fantastic! She said to me ' stop with all the tracking you don't need to do it. I'll take over from here' When she said that it was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. All I need to do was take my vitamins and have sex twice a week and that was that!

I was 3 weeks away from my next consultation to book my IVF treatment when I found out I had fell pregnant naturally.

I do think us women put so much pressure on our selves. The constant worry of why me? Why hasn't it happened yet? Why is everyone else having babies? Also the added pressure of social media and watching other people's 'perfect' lives.

My advice to you is to try and get referred because honestly the doctors at the fertility clinic, the help I got and support was what I really needed.

Thank you so much your message means so much to me and lifted a huge weight congratulations too I am so scared I've been crying for three days now because I'm so afraid of not having what I believe every woman should sorry every woman that wants to I will do that I will tell the doctor I'm done with blood tests and being passed of because he doesn't feel what I'm feeling but I am so grateful thank you so much for your message and I will let you know if I conceive or if I don't :-( but I'm sending all my 💕 Love 💕