6 months TTC no BFP - too early for tests/investigation?

[Twinkletoes892]

Dh and I have been ttc for 6 months (both aged early 30s) plus a couple of extra where we weren’t particularly careful but didn’t really try (maybe dtd once during fertile week) have been using opks and tracking ovulation but zero hint of a bfp. Getting more depressed/despairing every month as it feels like it’s never going to happen for us and am convinced that there must be a problem as I know when I’m ovulating and have very regular cycles. Thinking of going for tests privately as feel like time is running out and not sure if I can face another 6 months of worry/wasted time if there is an issue. Equally, if there is a minor problem, would prefer to try for a bit rather than being bumped into ivf etc. Would it be better to wait for a couple more months? We’d already put off ttc due to COVID related reasons last year and so I feel like time is slipping away!

6 months is really very normal in terms of ttc in early 30s. The thing is, people love to tell you when they've fallen pregnant first time etc but no one brags about it taking 10 months!

I fell pregnant after 8 months and had a missed miscarriage. I was then ttc for another 6 months and decided to pay for private fertility tests. Complete waste of time and my money and the private doctor told me so. There was nothing wrong with either my DH's or my fertility and she said that she expected me to fall pregnant within the next 6 months. I was pregnant 2 months later with my now daughter.

Yes it is annoying and frustrating when everyone around you seems to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat but you're currently at a very normal point in your journey and in all likelihood, you'll be avoiding the alcohol on Christmas Day.

I know how tiresome it is. They say for a healthy couple it will take up to 12 months to get pregnant. Many GP / doctors won't even take you in for tests if you haven't tried for 12 months, if you're younger than 35. If you're older, then I think after 6 months of trying.
That being said, we're TTC for the 4th cycle so I know how long even 4 months are. Even though I know it's normal I also think "what if there's something wrong with either of us and we're wasting our time here".

@Twinkletoes892 I am in exactly the same position as you. I'm 33 and we are on C5 and its really hacking me off I haven't even had a wiff of a BFP. My best friend has now confided that she is 8 weeks pg (shes 37 and only tried for 2 cycles) which really hasn't helped. My cycles are bang on 29 days and DP has no issues...

I inquired with a local fertility center and they told me that I should wait until we've done a full year. So frustrating... I just feel like I'm broken

Hi guys I’m 10 months too! Early 30s, no sign ever of a line on a preg test. I count myself as healthy and I just couldn’t figure out what’s going on. So I’ve actually got private fertility appointments booked which are next week to get some bloods/scans etc to get to the bottom of it which will either

• put my mind at ease
• find a problem, fix me, help me

I just see everyone getting pregnant so easily and it’s frustrating. I know if I went nhs there’s like 2/3 months waiting and I can’t be bothered with that.
I know it feels like ages but there’s so many people in similar boats to us, but just do what feels right!! But remember if you want testing on nhs and you go on month 12, there’s like a 3 month wait usually to even get a consultation!!!

I'm 34 and currently 37 weeks pregnant but it's been a long road we were trying for just over a year and suffered 2 losses in that time.

I know it's difficult but in the world of trying to conceive 6 months really isn't a long time

Best of luck

I think it depends on your area because in my area it's 2 years of trying and that starts from when you contact them for anything to even start to happen so it may be worth just letting them know that you've started trying just so it's on record

I would say also, stick at it because in my area, you are entitled to fertility investigations after a year but they provide no nhs treatment at all.