Getting obsessed so early in journey

[Ribrabrob]

New to ttc and I’m already obsessed. I’m spending a small fortune on tests and getting excited about the smallest of symptoms.

My period is late but I just know it’s going to come any moment which I think is making it worse - I just want it to come so I can know I’m not for sure :(

Any tips for stopping the obsession? How do you relax? I’ve promised myself not to buy anymore tests, but I say the same About chocolate and th at has not got me far

Just remind yourself that the symptoms mean NOTHING. They overlap perfectly with pms/AF symptoms as they're all cause by progesterone so mean absolutely nothing.

Tests are harder - I'd just buy the cheap dip stick bulk ones and give in to POAS. At least you're not wasting too much money on it then. Do read up on the odds of even detecting a line early though, eg there's no point testing before 8dpo at the very earliest as you need to have had implantation + another 2days worth of rising hcg levels before anything is detectable. Drives me nuts to see women do it at 4 or 5dpo when they physically wouldn't even have had implantation yet 😅

@Ribrabrob eesh I know the feeling. Obsessing doesn't help (as you know) and the only way I managed in the end was a big reality check dose to myself. This was it:

From starting to ttc to giving birth for me was 27 months. 8 months to conceive, a missed miscarriage and then another 8 months to conceive and of course, pregnancy. Every month/day was painful and long. In the end I had therapy because I was obsessed to an unhealthy level after my miscarriage.

I hope it happens quickly for you with no issues but it may take you a year to conceive and that would be normal.

Make sure you're catching up on your hobbies/friends and avoiding mumsnet two week wait threads because they only fuel your feelings. When I was pregnant I had no symptoms at all. Every time I wasn't pregnant (16 months of ttc) I had this twinge/that twinge/cramps, you name it.

Thanks both, that’s some great advice. It’s so hard isn’t it? Saw someone say on another thread that they wish getting pregnant was just a case of pushing a button - if only eh! I think a lot of people don’t realize how long a process getting pregnant can be.