Friend got pregnant

[Dolly3092]

I'm so upset, and I don't want to be, partner and I are ttc but so far no luck, last night my friend told me that she's pregnant (they haven't been trying) and I told her that I am really happy and excited for her (which I truly am) but I have also found myself really upset now and not able to stop crying, has anyone else felt like this? How did you get past it? Hope to hear from you lovely ladies soon

People always say that they havent been trying but then reveal theyve not been using contraception! Did they actually have a genuine contraception fail?

Sending you
It took us a while to conceive. Its heartbreaking to wait and see friends have babies without trying. Be kind to yourself.

I felt like this with my best friend. We were both trying and I cried for three days after I found out. Be nice to yourself.

I know this doesn't help, but the knowledge she had got pregnant gave me the push to up my use of LH sticks and I fell pregnant the following month so now we are five weeks apart in our pregnancies.

Wishing you lots of baby dust x

Yes I agree. It's now that dc are older that friends and others have told us the truth how long it took ttc.

I think what you're feeling is normal.
How long have you been trying? How old are you?

Thank you all so much for the replies, it's so nice to know it's not just me, we haven't been trying for that long, only since January, I'm 28 and this will be my second child (3rd for him) and I really thought this was our month, as had a few symptoms but bfn this morning so made me feel even worse :(

I had my nexplanon implant removed on the 18th Jan, and have since had 3 regular periods, my cycle length seems to be 26 days, and I have heard that that can make it harder to get pregnant too, which is upsetting

Please never compare to the "fell pregnant accidentally" crew. Sooo many friends told me this and it turned out they had been having unprotected sex with their partners for months - like duh that is TTC you just dont want to admit it for some strange reason. Genuine contraception fails are so so so rare.

BFNs totally suck but you'll get there soon! Are you using OPKs? Remember 6-12 months is totally normal.

@Dolly3092

I had my nexplanon implant removed on the 18th Jan, and have since had 3 regular periods, my cycle length seems to be 26 days, and I have heard that that can make it harder to get pregnant too, which is upsetting

Please don't worry about the 26 days thing. That's not a short cycle anyway but also it's not the total cycle length that's an issue. I had a 23 day cycle when TTC for both my children but I ovulate early and have a decent luteal phase so was never an issue.

Totally normal to feel how you're feeling now though. Do be kind to yourself

@Dolly3092 it is heartbreaking when you are trying and feel like everyone around you is just "falling pregnant" it took my 18 months and a miscarriage to conceive in my current pregnancy, whilst my best friend got pregnant a few months ago and kept telling me how easy it was after one month 😡

Three months really is no time at all and I'm sure you will fall very soon and have babies so close together it will be lovely xx

Thank you all so so much, honestly, it's mad how much better I feel already just after talking to you ladies, it's nice having people that can relate, you're all amazing! Baby dust to all ttc in this thread, keep me updated, as will I