Hi all. I know that this topic has been discussed already, but I don't know how to join, so I am just posting a separate message, and hope some of you will answer.
I have vaginismus, or at least I believe that's what I have, as my gynecologyst never really diagnosed it. I was never able to have penetrative sex, as it felt like there's a wall down there and nothing can come through.
It's been like that in my 9 year long relationship with my ex, and same now with my fiance, so it is not a psyhological problem. My gynecologist was able to insert a small sized tool, and I can't say that it really hurt, but it was very uncomfortable and there is no way for me to stay in sex mood while feeling like that, so my parner was never able to insert his thingy, as he freaks out the moment he realize that it's not good for me (plus, his thingy is quite bigger then the tool the doctor used 😂)
When I first asked for help (2 years ago, yes I waited so long), my doctor's theory was that I have some very thick tissue and he scheduled an incision. He claimed that it will be easier after it, but for me not much changed. Maybe it's doesn't feel as much as a wall anymore, but more as a tunel that is simply too narrow for anything wider than a finger to go in.
We found the way around it to enjoy sex and it was not a big deal until last month we decided that it's time to try and have a baby. I read about splash pregnancies, and we decided to try despite very low changes of conceiving that way, before we ask for medical help.
So last month, we took this decision pretty seriously, had sex 5 times during my fertile window, he ejacukated ON my vaginal opening, but we kinda pushed some of it inside. I believe we touched the cervix, if that's what I felt, as I am not very familiar with the inside of my uncooperative vagina :)
Sorry for explicit explanation, but details matter for this topic, right? :)
Anyways, it was just a touch, and I wasn't really expecting anything to happen. Until my period decided not to show up.
My cycle in last 6 months was 30 days, 31, 31, 28, 29, 29. Normaly, it doesn't last longer then 31 days. Now it's 37th day and still nothing.
About 10 days ago, I had exeperienced slight cramps and was sure that that's it, but I didn't get my period. Two days ago, I started feeling very mild cramps that would come and go in waves, so I thought ok, here it comes. But no, still no period. I don't feel the usual pre-menstrual syndroms. I do feel slight fatigue during the day, I have to pee so otfen that it is annoying, and I even had a cat that hates me come to my lap and start rubbing herself on me, which she have never done before 😂😂😂
But I have had FOUR negative tests so far. Two of them done before missed period, one on the day of missed period, and one yesterday (5 days after a missed period). I know that it might be too early, especially as I did them with afternoon urine, and I also know that chances of conceiving this was are not on our side, but I am confused by the situation I am in. I even started to feel like crazy and ask myself if I am imagining my symptoms, and maybe delaying my period with stress (although I did not feel stressed about it until I actually missed it).
So tell me what do you think? What are your experiences? Did anyone concieve this way, how much time did it take? What are the chances? And can I still be pregnant, despite the tests?
I am sorry for the long post, but I hope some of you will relate and share experiences :)