dp has told me doesnt want kids ...its my dream

[needtobeamummy]

changed my name for this...totally p'd off with dp, i have had 2 m/c and i am so desperate to try again which he wont even talk about saying he aint ready and he doesnt even know if he wants kids! and unsure if he wants to get married even, this is the only dream i have in my whole world, told him to have a hard think about this as i dont think i can stay with him if thats the way he is feeling, yeaterday i cried non stop even started packing my bags to leave, but i love him so much but cant live my life without the babies i am so desperate for, also been on antibiotic... knowing this could stop the pill workin but kinda on purpose didnt mention anything (this was before i knew his intentions of not wanting kids)... i am feeling quite funny right now, been sick cant stop these emotional crying outbursts, just hoping that i aint pg as i dont wannt bring a baby into this world unwanted totally pissed off as hes always said if it happens hed be thrilled! aaaa so upset its the only dream i have x

i told my mam, and she said my dad got the wobbles too... glad he decided babies was the way to go or i wouldnt be here think i will just lay it ow for a bit and see what happens... keep crying, what the hells wrong with me! hormornal loon as dp keeps saying i am x

my sil wasted her 20's on a man. She split up, got back together upteen times. in the enbd she finally had the guts to follow through (ie split up & not get back with him) after 7 long years. She's now finally engaged & due to get married next year & will be 31 before she even tries for the children she so desperately wants.

The point I'm getting at is I think she was just too scared to break up & be alone & worried she wouldn't find the man & love & whole wonderful thing 7 kids eyc, so she stuck with Mr 'Better the devil you know" and it did eventually die a death anyway.

You really need to try & decide if he is the one, if you really love him, if he really means what he says about kids (seems to be giving you very mixed messages). Has he actually mebtioned marriage? `Will you be prepared to have children with him outside of marriage?

In your position, I would lay my cardfs on the table - explain exactly what you want/envisage for your relationship & then go away for a few days & give him time to think about it, but I don't think you should just let time drift by. yes, you are young now, but you can't realy afford to just let time drift by.

hard decicions to be made. all the best

thanks ernest apprichate your advice, i do love him dearly, he has mentioned getting married, been engaged for a year now,were planning to marry in a couple of years, would have kids before getting married! just his sudden change of tune has quite frankly shocked me!

any further forward, needtobeamummy? thinking of you xx