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FirstTimeGirl · 27/04/2021 00:39

Hey ladies,

I've come off contraception and my DP and I have been trying for a baby during my ovulation. (Sorry if that's not how you phrase it - I'm a newbie) anyway, we have been together for 6 years, both totally on the same page about wanting children etc. We originally wanted to marry first but a death in the family has made us rethink this and we've concluded that life is just too short!

Anyway enough rambling! I've suddenly just became terrified of potentially being pregnant. My next period is due in 9 days. It's hit me that I could potentially be carrying the baby of a man who has absolutely no legal ties to me. None of my friends with children are married, my own parents never married but DPs side is the complete opposite. Obviously the last thing I want to think about is splitting up and being a single mum (Christ I'm probably not even pregnant yet!) but I also need to think about every scenario. Ugh sorry, this has turned into more of a rant than a question. Do you think I'm just overreacting?

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Hopefulhedgehog · 27/04/2021 08:19

What is it in particular which worries you about splitting up and not being married? He would still be the child’s father and have a legal obligation to them.

Bluntness100 · 27/04/2021 08:24

@Hopefulhedgehog

What is it in particular which worries you about splitting up and not being married? He would still be the child’s father and have a legal obligation to them.
Well yeah but that doesn’t mean he’d step up or do half the child care.

Op, see if you’re pregnant first, and stop ttc immediately. If you’re unsure about going it alone and wish the protection of marriage then you need to take that discussion,

firsttimemummy321 · 27/04/2021 08:32

If you're going to break up it would happen with or without being married so if you feel comfortable and happy and ready to have a baby I wouldn't let that stop you. If you want the traditional marriage then kids that is fine but I wouldn't say it adds much more security (I could be wrong but I don't think it does) x

Hopefulhedgehog · 27/04/2021 08:45

@Bluntness100 but how to marriage change whether he would step up or not and do half the child care?

Hopefulhedgehog · 27/04/2021 08:45

*does

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