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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Second baby

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Stargazer89 · 23/04/2021 22:03

Hi everyone,
I don’t know if this is the appropriate place to post this but I was just interested in age gaps between first and second child. My child is not yet 1 but I am almost 36 (so apparently classed as an older mother) and I am already conscious about leaving it too long to try for a second Xx

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Chazzy19876 · 23/04/2021 22:20

Following as I’m wondering the same.

I had an EMCS and so that’s holding me back slightly as I know I should give myself time to heal (DD is 9 months) but would like the two close together and would just love another one!

Boho7 · 23/04/2021 22:22

21 months between my 2. Pretty hard in the beginning but they are 4 and 5 now and was definitely worth it. They play together all the time and are just growing up together now. Its so lovely to watch 😊 x

HaNNaHC92 · 23/04/2021 22:35

25 months between my 1st & 2nd child. I'm now 39w with baby no.3 and they'll be 21 months between 2nd & 3rd child

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Stargazer89 · 23/04/2021 22:51

Thanks for your replys.
@Chazzy19876 I had an elective c section. I feel like I have fully recovered from it but I didn’t really enjoy being pregnant. It’s tricky isn’t it xx

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Babyfg · 23/04/2021 23:33

I had 18 months between my first two. The consultant told me I should have waited until 18 months so my body could fully heal (not as mean way but a take care of yourself way) . I had natural births with both so am no sure but isn't it recommended to wait 18 months after a c section?

The close gap was hard for the first year but now they're 3 and 4 and it's really lovely. They're like my little gang and we do everything together.

DramaAlpaca · 23/04/2021 23:36

I have 16 months between my first two. Only because I thought it would take ages to conceive like it had with DC1. It didn't, it happened the first time of trying and i was still breastfeeding as well.

The first year was hard, but as they've grown it got easier. They are still best friends now as young adults.

MonkeyPuddle · 23/04/2021 23:38

Just over three years between my two. So far so good. I would have absolutely hated to have had a newborn/been pregnant when DS was a screaming banshee of a 2 year old.

alexio · 23/04/2021 23:48

@Stargazer89 12months between my 2. March 2020&2021

@Chazzy19876 I had an emergency cs with my 1st and was pregnant 3 months after (wasn't planned, happy surprise) and there was no issues I just ended up having another cs due to risk factors of vbac but I was given the option

Divineswirls · 24/04/2021 00:01

I had an 18 month gap between my DC and it was exhausting. A three year gap seemed a better idea on reflection

Divineswirls · 24/04/2021 00:03

However it was easy taking them out as they enjoyed going to the same places so we had loads of fun together.

Chazzy19876 · 24/04/2021 06:29

The day after I have brith the doctor told me to wait at least a year until trying again due to the c section. However I have heard stories of people conceiving before that and not having any issues. That being said I think it’s good to give yourself the time.

Wow @alexio how are you finding it?

@Stargazer89 it is tricky but I think I would defs go for an elective c section for the second one rather than got through a whole labour for it to end in a c section again!

Chazzy19876 · 24/04/2021 06:31

Also totally ridiculous I know but I want to try and have another summer baby or spring baby! Waiting 18 months would mean a winter born baby which I don’t know how I would find.

fruitsaladyummyummy · 24/04/2021 06:57

14 month between my 2. Hell on earth. That's 2 easy pregnancies, 2 easy births and 2 easy babies. Wouldn't recommend it to anyone. Everyone who has 3 & 4+ year olds say it's so much easier but honestly that's absolutely 0 help when you've got a 4 month old and 18 month old so you're absolutely nowhere near that.

stormelf · 24/04/2021 07:52

I have 26 month between my two. I loved the age gap, now at age 3 and 1 they play together all the time and are really close. Just found out I am expecting baby no.3 and if everything goes well we will have a 24 month age gap between second and third.

ChickenNuggetRose · 24/04/2021 11:40

I have a 7 month old and we agreed to try again for the second this month as we've always wanted a close age gap and it's the last time I'm doing it! 😊

weegiepower · 24/04/2021 16:09

There is just over 2 years between my two and I really really struggled, but youngest was a really tough baby and I wasn't prepared. He's nearly 4 now and it is easier but still difficult at times because he's still quite a handful! Some people find it easy and others don't, I love both my children more than I could have ever imagined but if I'd known how hard it would have been I would have left it longer. I didn't help I did pretty much everything myself so my marriage ended in divorce, so for me it was easier after that because I was only looking after 2 children as opposed to what felt like 3!!

alexio · 24/04/2021 22:21

@Chazzy19876 I'm not going to lie and say it's easy, it's is hard at times but I wouldn't change it and I wouldn't have done it any different. The 1st 2 weeks after section were really hard because of pain but I had a lot of support. It is tiring but my older ds loves the his little brother and is always looking for him so I'm hoping they will be close as they grow up

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