TTC AND NEED SOME POSITIVITY PLEASE 🌈

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Hi Everyone...
Just wanted a little bit of positive vibes and help with how to stay positive whilst trying TTC.
Now i know we havent been trying for very long and i really have no clue how people who have been trying for a long time cope at all and i admire their strength to keep going.
Nobody tells you how hard and emotional it is TTC and its not always the pretty pictire that you are sold. I also never realised that pregnancy is everywhere you look until i didnt want to see it.
So me and my hubby have been trying since last year and have had 2 miscarriages in that time. I have been referred to the Gynaecology department at my local hospital as i am 35 and have a rare Autoimmune disease. But im still wiating for an appt as they are behind due to Covid.
Please can anyone help with how to keep going and stay positive? I just feel like giving up..
Thanks in advance xx

I am sorry about your MCs, it really does make being positive harder!

For me, I think I just chose to be positive if that makes sense?

I was TTC for 2 and half years (started in Dec 2017) and in that time I got so depressed that I stopped even testing or really trying. Then I got pregnant and had a MC and it felt like it just broke me. About 4 months later I told myself "NO don't give up, this is something you want" so I started trying again (this was July 2020) and I started envisioning what it'd be like to have a child and be pregnant and it weirdly started getting easier?

I know it sounds so simplistic, but it was the only thing to bring me out my depression. Spending even 5 minutes a day imagining what it would be like (even the worries and fears) has helped.

Also doing a lot of research into private clinics, surrogacy and even adoption has made me realise no matter what, it can be achieved one way or the other.

I'm not sure if this helps, I still need to convince myself every day to not give up, but I hope you find a way to find a little positivity in this horrible yet exciting process x

I feel your pain OP. I had a MMC in September/October last year and am currently 9 weeks pregnant.
TTC really is physically and emotionally draining. Moreover for us women as we agonise over ovulation, OPKs, pregnancy tests. Collecting pee in old yogurt pots in the hope of seeing that desired BFP.
Even after I got my BFP, I still didn't think it was real til I had an early scan and took a picture home. Even after that, I'm still so anxious in case I have another MMC.

Trying to stay positive is SO hard. I feel that taking things a day at a time and not getting too ahead of myself helps. Also helps to be working as well to keep my mind occupied.

Hang in there and know you're not alone.

@Kayleaaa
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply.
Sorry for your loss. You sounds like you are being really positive which is great. Maybe i just need a bit more time to get in that frame of mind.
Im currently in my TWW and due on today. Somebody i know has just announced they are pregnant and they are due the same time i would have been if i hadn't miscarried the 2nd time and its been a massive trigger for me.
Fingers crossed it gets better.
Wishing you lots of luck on your journey x

@KeepSmiling89
Thanks so much for your reply.
Huge congratulations on your pregnancy.
I know what you mean. Having a loss just ruins the excitement 2nd time round.
Wishing you a healthy pregnancy x