How to cope with others pregnancy announcements?

[Giraffe31]

Over the past 3 months we’ve had pregnancy announcements from 3 of my Dh cousins, meanwhile we’re still desperately trying to conceive our first and struggling to stay positive. How do you continue to grit your teeth and smile while feeling like you’ve been kicked in the stomach?

Hi OP. This is something I’ve been dealing with lately after 9 months of TTC and feeling more hopeless every month when my period comes. Two close friends and a cousin recently announced pregnancies and I see it all the time on social media. My advice would be - sounds cheesy but just let yourself feel it. Let yourself feel completely shit about it without trying to tell yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling like that. I let myself indulge in every grumpy awful feeling for a couple of hours and that helps to snap me out of it. A huge factor for me is reminding myself there’s not a finite amount of babies/pregnancies - it’s shitty now but that’s THEIR baby, MY baby is coming. I hope that makes sense? But I do empathise, it’s so shitty.

Hi @Giraffe31

I wish I could offer you some wisdom. My husband and I have been trying for 13 months now. We had a miscarriage in February (early stages).

I have been surrounded by pregnancy announcements for about 18 months now and the further info my TTC journey I get, the more it hurts.

I wish I had some advice for you. I have in doses quit social media to avoid seeing the posts and pictures. But of course, this can’t be done in real life when it’s friends, family or coworkers.

I just have my own pity party, cry and be jealous! Which I am! I think it’s natural to feel that way although I know sometimes I feel like an awful person for feeling pangs of envy.

I just keep telling myself for every month it’s not me, I’m a month closer to when (hopefully) it will be me.

My TTC journey has grown more complex in recent months so my own hope is declining. But we must try and be positive.

Thinking of you both @Giraffe31 @Asthenia xx

Being the last in our group of friends, I feel you.
I congratulate them, because I am happy for them, but I do find myself but withdrawn from chat groups about babies.
Not many of them know we've been trying and failing so it's not their fault they just want to share their happiness with me. I play along, but it's very hard.
Here's an e-hug... I feel your pain. We will get though this.

It’s just such a relief to know that others feel the same and that just because I feel that pang of jealously it doesn’t make me a bad person! I don’t know if I’m just noticing it more but it really seems like there’s been a baby boom lately too over the past 3 months or so

There definitely has been a baby boom. Everyone seems pregnant...people I know and celebrities I follow on social 🥺

I remember this feeling.. I was sooo jealous of my sil getting pregnant, and I felt soo strongly that it should’ve been me. But you know what ? Whilst they have their pregnancy and can’t drink, fly, eat pate just lord it up and redesign your sitting room in white and tell them what a wonderful life you’re having because once that’s baby arrives they are proper stuck and won’t even have time to comb hair let alone anything else !!

A huge factor for me is reminding myself there’s not a finite amount of babies/pregnancies

This basically. It can feel like a kick in the gut but their positive doesn't have to be my negative. Then I have a glass of wine. Occasionally cry for my lost baby boy. Deep breathe and focus on me/dh/ds1.

Fingers crossed for us all! Our time will come! X