Struggling

[Greencauliflowers]

DH and I have been ttc since 2018, with no luck. Everywhere I look there are pregnancy announcements and birth announcements and I am genuinely happy for friends, but every one cuts deeper. I have a long term condition which may or may not be adding to the difficulties. Spent today with family, which has made my heart ache even more. DH is out so I have all the time to think and no one in real life to talk to. I just want the sadness to stop. I never imagined it would be this hard. Thanks for reading.

Hi @Greencauliflowers 👋 I completely agree with you. We've been ttc since June 2019 with no luck, we're going through private tests at the mo to get answers. The last few weeks it's got to me more than ever. 3 of my friends are pregnant, one of those held a baby shower this weekend which was lovely. But deep down I was heartbroken asking myself if it will ever be my turn. You definitely aren't alone.
Have you had any tests to get some answers?xxx

So sorry you’re in this situation too. No tests - GP tells me it’s because I’m slightly overweight and seems to think that’s the answer. With covid they said it wasn’t a priority 😞 were private tests expensive if you don’t mind me asking?

Just letting you know you’re not alone. I know what it feels like to look around and see and hear so many other ppl are pregnant. It’s so hard. Xx

@Greencauliflowers keep pressing GP, they can still make referrals regardless of weight and defo don't let them say covid! We have been waiting for GP referrals for 6months which is why we decided to go private. Then got a letter through from hospital with an appt for scan literally a week after booking private🙈.
The private hospital we're using does a package £700 ish for tests. I had blood tests and the this week I've got HyCoSy and pelvic scan, and Mr has got a SA. We're in the Midlands and there's a few different hospitals we could of used.

@Greencauliflowers you are not alone in your feelings. TTC is the hardest thing I’ve ever done and I am still trying at it. I’m so sorry to hear your GP is not being very supportive. I would recommend you try again if you feel up to it. It may be low priority for docs compared to what’s going on just now with COVID etc but it is incredibly important to you and your DP and if you feel anything like I feel with it all, it is detrimental to mental health.
I have recently started fertility investigation and it started out with a chat with a GP who then organised 21 day blood tests and it’s snowballed from there. My partner had his SA done on Fri past and we have been referred to the fertility clinic and have our first appointment on 21st April. I have been trying less time that you, since June 2019 and I am definitely overweight and at the moment am definitely now eligible for IVF if I need it. I am currently following the NHS 12 week diet plan to address that issue.
Like you I have three close friends who are expecting and I am finding it so difficult. Just feel immense sadness and helplessness. Like it’s never going to happen.
Do you mind me asking, Is this you first?

@Positivity2019 so sorry you’re going through this too. I think I will try the GP again when I feel a bit braver. Yes it will be our first. The hopelessness and sadness feels never ending

@Sml93 thanks for the info, I’ll have a look! Fingers crossed for all of us

@Greencauliflowers it really does feel never ending and never have I noticed so much stuff to do with pregnancy and babies as when we started trying. I think you’re right to try the GP again when you feel ready. When I first spoke to the GP I was very open and honest about how it was affecting my low mood, causing stress and anxiety. It’s an incredibly emotive situation for sure.