Period after neonatal death

[flb53]

Hi, I was just hoping for some information before I drive myself crazy.
I lost my DS in January, two days after he was born, due to complications during delivery. I had to have an emergency ceserean where they did a 'T' incision on my uterus.
I had bleeding after delivery which gradually became less + less but seemed to pick up abit after about 4 weeks ( I assumed this could be my period, although it wasn't very heavy)
The bleeding stopped 11th February + I haven't had anything since. Has anyone found that after ceserean or loss of their baby that it took a while for their periods to return? I'm now doubting if I've had a period at all + becoming more + more anxious that I could suffer from fertility issues as a result of what I've been through. I know getting stressed won't help but I'm not sure how I can't be stressed after what we've been through these last 3 months. Charlie was our first baby 🤍

A friend had EMDR therapy after losing her baby. It was amazing in helping her learn to live with her pain. Definitely worth looking into.

Yes thankyou, I've got a preconception meeting, but not until June.
There is an investigation at the hospital in to the care I recieved + also a coroner's inquest.
I think the consultant is wanting the investigation to be complete before the meeting but I've been writing a list of questions for June

Sorry to hear about Charlie. It's quite normal for periods to be absent after a period of stress / shock, even if the cause has no gynaecological link. Emotional stress, rapid weight loss or anything like this can cause our reproductive system to shut up shop temporarily.
It's still very early days so as hard as it is, try not to worry. It's generally recommended to avoid getting pregnant within a year of a caesarean birth to allow the wounds to heal properly (internally as well as outside).

I'm sure another pregnancy will be possible for you OP, don't write yourself off as it may take a while for periods to return. I think you may not be able to have a vaginal birth though and it would be a planned CSection. That's my experience anyway, when I went to the VBAC clinic they said if I had a T incision they would not consider a VBAC. Just something for you to consider, although a planned CSection may be preferable anyway and it will take away a lot of the risks xx

I'm so sorry for you loss.

After two miscarriages we then lost our first born in February at ten days old to meningitis. There's an investigation ongoing regarding us being sent home from hospital the day before she died. The waiting for all of that to conclude drags things on and definitely doesn't help with the grieving process.

I had a cesarean (although not T incision) and at first only bled for a few days. The stress of DD being unwell and then passing away stopped my bleeding for couple of weeks before it came back again for a couple of weeks. By week 5 I had stopped bleeding and have had no period yet.

I've started the contraceptive pill in the hope that when it comes to the 'break' I will get a period.

@Daisyflorence I'm so so sorry my heart breaks for you. If you ever want to talk my inbox is always open

[quote flb53]@Daisyflorence I'm so so sorry my heart breaks for you. If you ever want to talk my inbox is always open[/quote]
@flb53 right back at you! Please don't hesitate to message me. Sometimes helps talking to someone whose not connected to you but can relate xx

Oh gosh @Daisyflorence I am so so sorry for your loss xx

Hi @flb53 firstly I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for the loss of Charlie, it really is the worst pain imaginable losing a little one. We lost our DS1 back in August 19, I had a c section with him and we lost him 6 days later. I found I became totally consumed with the want to TTC again and was desperate to get my period back. I had the usual PP bleeding for around 2 weeks then nothing for about 10-11 weeks. My periods eventually returned and found they were about 26-33 days long, and by what felt like some miracle we conceived again around March last year and we now have DS2. I too was desperate for another baby, never in any way to replace our DS1 but just to fill even slightly the aching in my heart and to have that family I so longed for. It felt totally and utterly out of reach for me but you can get there, if there's anything you want to ask my inbox is always open. I found counselling helped me so much too. Sending you lots of love and strength💖

Sending you all my love. I lost my full term first born this last April 21st after a c-section to a very rare condition that only presents at birth. She was one day old. I'm so sorry to everyone on this thread who has experienced a loss. FLB53 you have my best wishes

Your poor baby Charlie. I'm so sorry.

I haven't got any particular advice but just wanted to add more support. Doctors advise leaving a couple of years between caesarians but in practice women who get pregnant before then are not really considered any kind of worrying case. It's common. I'm in my 40s and older women often attempt smaller gaps after caesarians because of the fertility clock ticking.

You've been through unspeakable trauma and loss on top of birth. Your period might take its time but it will return.
Look after yourself.
If you feel you need to be 'doing something' to bring about another baby, use this time to focus on nutrition and healing your body. Maybe look at fertility reflexology. Try to see this as an essential pre-conception stage rather than wasted time.

@flb53 just wondered how you're getting on? We've decided this month (14weeks pp) to start TTC but periods and cycle still all over the place xx